First Love - Is it different?

[lalala72]

Hi, my first relationship lasted 2 years and at the time I thought it was something special. However, the relationship I had after him was absolutely incredible, my feelings were so intense and I was so happy. There were problems of course, and we ended up splitting up. 3 years later and I still miss him so much. I've had two boyfriends since him and neither have ever compared. They've been nicer to me than he was, but the love I feel is absolutely nothing in comparison. Is this normal? I don't know if it's because it was my 'first' love or not? I just can't imagine ever feeling the same way for anybody else...

Thanks for reading.

[Primo]

It's not abnormal. Sometimes we have a stronger connection and attraction with people that aren't necessarily the best fit for us in a relationship.

[CocoChanel]

Very true. It's not abnormal but you will never be able to be happy with anyone else unless you let him go.

[lastwish]

I think all the hype about "first love" is overrated. Of course, you may compare your previous lovers with any future boyfriends but your first love would not necessarily be the most influential or the most intensive one.

[puddleuddle]

i was with my first love for two years as well. everything was perfect. we were so young and it was carefree and we told each other we would get married someday. then he broke my heart and it has taken me a year to fully get over and accept it.
anyway i've been with my current boyfriend for four months now and i love him very much. he treats me better in many ways and makes me realize what was lacking, but i do very often think about my ex and miss what we had because i know i will never have anything the same. this thinking is normal and healthy and doesn't interfere with how i feel for my new man.

there's just something about first loves that you never forget i think. and if you fall in love at sixteen like i did there's that fairy tale element that makes the attachment even stronger. i just have to remember not to trick myself into thinking that my first love was better than what i have now or what i can have in the future.
it was simply different and one-of-a-kind.