Is he still into me?

[Ania]

Hey, all of you.
I am new here and I would really love to hear your opinions about this subject, as well as helping some of you if you are in some kind of a f***ed up situation.
*waves*
So, this is my problem:
We were together for a year and he was best bf I ever had and I knew he loved me ,I loved him too and it was kind of a love that we meant its gonna last forever (although 'forever' is like basis in any love story ).
But two months ago he broke up with me saying the love just dissapeared. After that we didn't communicate for awhile. I missed him, but I thought thats best.
Recently, he started talking with me on the messengers and using words like: cute, sweet, sexy and etc.I know it's probably because he wants to be kind and stay friendly, but he makes me believe that he still wants me.
And I did love him, yes, but I realized we are different and the break up was the best thing to be done, although I miss him terribly at times.
But, for some reason I still want him and I still want to hear he wants me.
Do you think a (further) distance in the communication might make him realize he still loves me or makes him miss me?
And, why he is so friendly again?

[Primo]

What you described usually translates like this:

* The spark fizzled with you
* He met someone else that interested him
* He broke up with you and started seeing her
* The new girl didn't work out so great
* He misses what he had with you and wants it back

The only problem with this, is that it'll end up 'not working' for you and him again down the road and you'll have to deal with it all over.

[lovedoctor007]

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Another resource, i've heard good things about is this one:
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Looking forward to hear from you

[Ania]

I am not sure if I want him back because he left me and I want to be wanted again or I want a future with him.
Honestly, thinking about it over and over I do love him, but I don't love someone who can say 'forever' that easily and then go like nothing happened, and especially someone who is hiding when the conversation should happen.
As I said I was really happy with him and I know it will be my synonim for happiness in love always.

Thanks.

[IndiReloaded]

I do love him, but I don't love someone who can say 'forever' that easily and then go like nothing happened, and especially someone who is hiding when the conversation should happen.

You already know the answer^.

This guy sounds like a clown. Emotionally retarded. If you posted that he came back to you, abject and sincerely sorry he left you b/c he realized his mistake, the situation would be different.

This guy is just testing the waters with you with his cute words and flirts probably b/c he's horny. Not b/c he holds you in any regard. Run, don't walk, from men like this. They are black holes for your energy. You will always be worried he doesn't love you as much as you him. You are looking for Mr. Right. He's looking for someone better. You would only be Miss 'Right Now'.

[damn2008]

Hahaha..."emotionally retarded"...great use of words, that perfectly describes some people I know.

[Ania]

I dont know what to say. I guess he is bored after all and he knows I care about him.

[IndiReloaded]

I just want to make clear that my comment about him 'looking for someone better' isn't a criticism of you. You are fine the way you are. This is a 'him' problem, in that he can't be honest about what he does, or doesn't, want.

Of course, that said, there is an alternate solution. It requires some amount of maturity and self-confidence on your part, so you may not be ready for this type of behaviour. But you could simply have it out with him. Tell him how you feel, and why you find his behaviour confusing and offensive. Ask directly what you want to know.

He could simply be confused himself about things. Guys are human and insecure too. Sometimes, all that is needed is someone to have the courage to start the dialogue. If he still waffles tho, after putting the ball squarely in his court, then you have your answer.