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[MemoryPS]

alright. im new here dont know where things goes. so i decided to post this here. alright the name is gael, im 14, a junior, and i feel like a loser

alright so my problem here is ive been crushing on a girl for a year now/ but it seems that my introvert persona wont give me the guts on even to say hi. cuz i mean you know in highschool, im afraid to say hi because of what people around me might think, oh you know when it feels like your movements are limited. when it feels like your in a cage of despair, so my real problem is. what should i do for her to notice me, i feel like i dont exist, i feel so small its just because when i see her, everything goes slow mo.

so heres the thing that i planned but i know it would be an epicfail:

so i decided to change school next year. tho it will be hard coz im a junior its hard to change school when your graduating, so when i change school, ill start a new life and ill try to get her in college where everything is free, but the problem of this solution is, i might be to late, so can you guys give me an advice? or tips. or just what would she feel when i say hi

[azilin]

Until you learn to like yourself and have some confidence, anything you try with girls will be "epicfail". But give yourself a break. You're at the most awkward possible age, and you need some more time to fully grow into yourself.

You sound like you're looking for romance to give you something you lack. Believe me, it doesn't work that way. It will give you more of what you already have -- which sounds pretty much like agnst and self doubt.

You've got, like, 14 MORE years before you reach the median age at which people get married these days. Don't try so hard. Become just like the person you want to be with -- that's going to take you a few more years. When you become that person, you'll attract someone like yourself with relative ease.

You'll do fine. In the meantime, lighten up, relax, and enjoy the positives of being 14. I wish I'd been given this advice when I was 14. Seriously.

[Gigabitch]

^^^ What he said.

[MemoryPS]

Until you learn to like yourself and have some confidence, anything you try with girls will be "epicfail". But give yourself a break. You're at the most awkward possible age, and you need some more time to fully grow into yourself.

You sound like you're looking for romance to give you something you lack. Believe me, it doesn't work that way. It will give you more of what you already have -- which sounds pretty much like agnst and self doubt.

You've got, like, 14 MORE years before you reach the median age at which people get married these days. Don't try so hard. Become just like the person you want to be with -- that's going to take you a few more years. When you become that person, you'll attract someone like yourself with relative ease.

You'll do fine. In the meantime, lighten up, relax, and enjoy the positives of being 14. I wish I'd been given this advice when I was 14. Seriously.

al right thanks sir. ill learn to have patience.

edit: oh wait. i still want to learn more about her, what should i do? i mean i want to be friends with her but i dont want to fall from the friend zone, im really srry guys for the bother, its jst my first time

[rateyes]

your 14 and a junior in high school? dammmnnn you must be smart. and that could be one of the issues, as most juniors are 16-17.

but you just gotta realize, you can never be successful without failure. When you learn what that means youll be more confident.

and really, if you talk to a girl and dont ask em out, you pretty much friend zone yourself, or keep distance.

[MemoryPS]

your 14 and a junior in high school? dammmnnn you must be smart. and that could be one of the issues, as most juniors are 16-17.

but you just gotta realize, you can never be successful without failure. When you learn what that means youll be more confident.

and really, if you talk to a girl and dont ask em out, you pretty much friend zone yourself, or keep distance.

nah its pretty normal here in phil. 14-15 are those who are on junior high

[azilin]

edit: oh wait. i still want to learn more about her, what should i do? i mean i want to be friends with her but i dont want to fall from the friend zone, im really srry guys for the bother, its jst my first time

Ah, so you want to know more about this mysterious creature called Woman. Let me tell ya, kid, I got 38 years on ya and I'm still baffled.

Put it this way: you can't take love too seriously. It'll drive you insane. You have to learn to laugh at the absurdity of life, and there are few things more absurd than a guy in love with a girl. Actually it's best we don't call it love -- that's an over-used word. Let's just say, it can be pretty absurd just to be attracted to a girl.

Don't believe the myth that there is only one girl for you. That's romantic nonsense. You'll end up picking one, but I'm getting the sense you have way too much invested in this one -- like if you fail with her, it's the end of the world. Or that you'll somehow look more lame than the next guy. Let me give you a clue -- all those other guys are just as terrified and clueless as you, more or less. They just won't admit it. They may be better bullshitters than you, but trust me, at this age they are not sophisticated lovers.

I can't give you a formula because every girl is different. You just have to try and be willing to fail. If you fail, you can try with someone else. You'll develop a sense, after awhile, of how to read the tea leaves. Sort of. It's an art more than a science. You'll make mistakes -- just like all of us. It'll be okay. Honest.

If she isn't friendly, it's not a valid judgment on you ... it's just that it doesn't happen to be mutual.

Hope this helps, and good luck. If you feel like it, tell us how you're doing.

[MemoryPS]

Ah, so you want to know more about this mysterious creature called Woman. Let me tell ya, kid, I got 38 years on ya and I'm still baffled.

Put it this way: you can't take love too seriously. It'll drive you insane. You have to learn to laugh at the absurdity of life, and there are few things more absurd than a guy in love with a girl. Actually it's best we don't call it love -- that's an over-used word. Let's just say, it can be pretty absurd just to be attracted to a girl.

Don't believe the myth that there is only one girl for you. That's romantic nonsense. You'll end up picking one, but I'm getting the sense you have way too much invested in this one -- like if you fail with her, it's the end of the world. Or that you'll somehow look more lame than the next guy. Let me give you a clue -- all those other guys are just as terrified and clueless as you, more or less. They just won't admit it. They may be better bullshitters than you, but trust me, at this age they are not sophisticated lovers.

I can't give you a formula because every girl is different. You just have to try and be willing to fail. If you fail, you can try with someone else. You'll develop a sense, after awhile, of how to read the tea leaves. Sort of. It's an art more than a science. You'll make mistakes -- just like all of us. It'll be okay. Honest.

If she isn't friendly, it's not a valid judgment on you ... it's just that it doesn't happen to be mutual.

Hope this helps, and good luck. If you feel like it, tell us how you're doing.

thanks budd that helped a lot