What to do.... what to do.....

[Vfishy]

My boyfriend of 4 years is 26 years old and dreams of becoming a badminton superstar. Problem is every time he starts training he keeps getting injured. He quit working around 2 1/2 years ago and has been playing poker online as a source of income since then. He is generally earning from poker (i.e not losing money) but it hasn't been enough to support his lifestyle (food, and we recently went traveling to visit my sister etc). Therefore he still owes me quite a lot of $$$. He says he'll get a job next year but until then, I've been finding it hard to cope with the emotional stress of supporting him and his ways. He is a great guy otherwise & I do love him. Should I wait for next year to come and see how things go? I know it's just a month or 2 to go...but I'm feeling the pressure and stress from the situation that we've been fighting a lot due to my emotional outbursts

[azilin]

This has "deadbeat" written all over it. Your agitation is evidence that you know deep down that's true.

Why next year? So he can put it in the future, where he can't act on it. He could just as well do it now.

I'm not saying you come on like a battle-axe, issuing ultimatums. Keep it matter of fact. You simply need to tell him you can't support him anymore, and stick to your guns. Divide your finances if they're currently combined. The rest will take care of itself. He has to eat.

[valhensing]

my bf is in the same situation, doesnt want/cant get a job.... I have no advice for you