What's going on??

[beachbum1122]

Hey so I need advice on my current situation. This year in June my boyfriend and I of a year and a half broke up because of our fighting and my trust issues. Over the summer we both got together with other people and rarely talked. There was a point in which I tried to get back together but he only told me about his new girl and how awesome she was. I figured there was no chance and started dating someone else. As soon as this happened he confessed he was still in love with me and would come over and cry his eyes out telling me how he had made a mistake and would always love me. My then relationship was over almost as soon as it started. Once we were both single we continued to talk but he was still talking to other girls saying we would work things out as we went. I would sleep over his house on weekends and we hungout occasionaly. We still said I love you and it was if we were back to normal. Then one night he gave me a diamond ring and said it was a promise ring he purchased for me when he still wanted to get back together but he wasn't sure what he wanted now. Not long later I made the mistake of accusing him of lying about something that happened a year earlier. Apparently that was the last straw for him and he told me not to speak to him anymore. I continued to bog him down with calls and texts to which many I got no response. I then found out he was together with someone new. I finally stopped and a few nights later he texted me the lyrics to part of a Jason Aldean song, so I asked about the new girl and he went on to tell me how awesome she was how much he loved her family and how he didnt need me anymore, etc. ...once again as if to rub it in my face. So I finally gave up. Also, he ironically used to talk about how annoying this new girl was and seems to be suddenly head over heals for her. For some reason really wants to be exclusive with her and has already wrote her love notes which I find kind of strange. I have seen him twice since he told me to stop and neither of us has said or done anything. I just want to know what do I do? and what is he thinking?? Thanks!

[heart_broken]

Wow, what an interesting scenario you got going there.... Umm honestly I think that this guy is using women as almost an excuse for you to come begging back to him. I honestly believe that he still deep inside loves you. Because ive used this many times too, to make the girl i want coming back to me. It's commonly used among men.

You shouldnt really feel down about this because give him 2 maybe 3 weeks tops, and i honestly believe he will come back to you. But there are some things you need to do. Stop letting him win. By sending texts and constantly calling him, you are feeding his ego and self esteem. So bottom line, you can either wait for HIM to come back, or its just time for you to move on girl. Anyways hopefully I was of some use. Good luck with your situation and if you ever need more advice im here.

[DavidS]

Wow ... this guy sounds like quite the character ... I wouldn't waste anymore more time with this guy. One minute he wants you the next he doesn't ... what gives? Sounds like he doesn't know what he wants. I do agree with heart_broken though that guys use other girls to have you come back to him, however, if it's been this long and he hasn't decided to stay with you .... to me that sounds like he's not as interested as he may have been b4.

Good luck!