Originally Posted by
Sanctuary
I guess I want to have my cake and eat it too but it's kinda unfair that we have to play by what feels like rules created by women.
Sanctuary, I think you make some very interesting points, but you might want to read up on the history of marriage and monogamy. These "rules" were definitely not created by women, but historically by men for reasons that had little to do with love and sex. Just wikipedia or google the history of marriage and monogamy. It's interesting stuff.
Monogamy while a cultural idea, is simply a structure of a relationship, and in this day and age, it's not something you have to choose if your partner is willing. If you want something else, why not investigate it? You might find women more willing than you think.
There are polyamourous lifestyles out there. They are on the fringe, yes, but they do exist. You just have to be willing to forgo the social pressure that judges you if you don't follow the status quo.
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