Help

[mrshiznit44]

Hey, i really need some help.

So i really like this girl and i feel as if she really doesnt notice me , anymore. Whenever im with her i just feel good you know, i guess thats what love is. But anyways, I used to talk to her a lot, and when i say alot, i mean it. Then all of a sudden we just stopped. Like now when i text her she says conversation ending phrases, like "yeah" and "haha". I really don't know what to do. I was recently at a party with her and we both grinded and we were dancing so intimately, like as if she was interested in me. I also grinded with other people there, and whenever i would she would find somebody else, as if she was jealous. I really need help. I really would like to go out with her and spend time with her. Whenever I see her in school, we sort of ignore each other, its really weird. I need tips of how i get her to like me or eventually like me.

[mrshiznit44]

*bump**bump

[starbuck]

Have you tried asking her out on a date?

[TheWizard]

sounds like it's waning to me. The feeling you have is attraction, possibly infatuation depending on how intense the feeling is... calling it love is not correct.

As for the situation, it sounds like at one point you guys were very close and flirty, and then she stopped digging you - if she was single during that flirty time she probably was waiting for you to make a move, but you missed the window and she's moved on. The spark was there so it can be rekindled later on, but when you start getting close ended texts like this: "lol" "yeah" "k" "nope" etc, then she's not into the conversation, get the hint and quit while you're ahead before you annoy her more.

Tips?
Number one you need to gauge her interest again. Ignoring each other is not good - she should be doing something to indicate any interest she has in you. Grinding on the dance floor is dancing, don't read too much into it. Smiling when she sees you, or any of the many other body language queues. Here's one to try, see if she will let you stand within 12 inches of her. If she backs out she's not interested anymore - this is an intimate space and you're invading it. If she doesn't mind that's a step in the right direction. Also if you try to touch her shoulder/arm or something else safe and benign and she recoils instead of being receptive while talking to her that's not good.

If she won't look you in the eyes, is more interested in other stuff going on in the hallways while you try to talk to her or she's otherwise not focusing her attention on you it's not a good sign.

From what you've described something has gone awry and you have a long way to get that spark back if it was ever there. Hope some of this helps.

You're not hounding after her are you? Sending lots of texts, emails, calls that seem needy or otherwise like you're pining for her attention - if you are stop that immediately. My final advice would be to stop contact with her. If she likes you she'll start initiating contact with you again.