Hardest Part About Breaking Up?

[Perryville]

I guess I'm somewhat different, in that we went from being married to an FWB relationship. She wanted to be free from the kids, but still wanted to f**k me. The hardest part, has been the realization that the woman I loved was such a crappy person. How could I have missed the signs?

[TimeToGrowUp]

Sounds like your mom needs to be less of a presence in your relationships. You can listen to her advice and vent to her, but don't take her word as THE word. You're her baby, so of course she's gonna stand by you and be sensitive to your feelings above all else.

So, next time when mom says, "Oh, you'll just know." or "You'll feel a spark." or even, "She's no good for you." you may want to take a step back. Ask a guy friend, or even a girl friend what they think as their opinions are a bit more objective.

Want to hear something weird?

She still hasn't asked for her cat back. This was her "baby boy" ....a gift from her mother. I would joke with her sometimes that I'd get custody if something were to ever happen to us. She'd defiantly say oh heck no.

[lahnnabell]

Damn. I'd want my cat back! That is a bit weird now that you put it that way. She cut of all contact to the point where she won't even attempt to get her cat back?

Haha, I guess you could just walk up to her and be like, "So, uh... Do you want the cat back, or what?" Unless you wanna keep him! Kittehs are awesome

[TimeToGrowUp]

Damn. I'd want my cat back! That is a bit weird now that you put it that way. She cut of all contact to the point where she won't even attempt to get her cat back?

Haha, I guess you could just walk up to her and be like, "So, uh... Do you want the cat back, or what?" Unless you wanna keep him! Kittehs are awesome

Yup. Hasn't even mentioned him. I just find that odd. Very odd. Every other woman I've talked to about her said that would've been the first thing they'd ask for back.

I love the cat to death, but I'm back and forth about what to do about him. She and I work out at the same gym too. Very small place. She's part of a fitness competition training group. They're there all day long. It's impossible to be there at a separate time than her. She hasn't once come up to say anything.

[Perryville]

Cats are mediums of Satan.

[CocoChanel]

No matter how long you have had a cat, feed them, take care of them... those bitches will still claw, scratch and hiss at you. What kind of pet is that. A demon. Throw him in the street like the rest of the world does.

[TimeToGrowUp]

No matter how long you have had a cat, feed them, take care of them... those bitches will still claw, scratch and hiss at you. What kind of pet is that. A demon. Throw him in the street like the rest of the world does.

I don't know what kind of experience you've had with'em, but that hasn't been mine.

[Perryville]

I was just kidding, my cat isn't satanic, just stupid.

[lahnnabell]

Haha, I've had a few retarded male cats. It's the females that tend to be bitchy.

I miss my kitteh Wizard. Mrow.

[CocoChanel]

I just hate cats. Don't mind me.

I have never owned a cat but before I was scared of them I just noticed how they always scratched and clawed at their owners. I'm like... how can you bite the hand that feeds you!! Mean ass cats.

[Perryville]

My cat is spatially challenged. He falls off things, runs into things etc. Plus, he can't distinguish between a a dog he can whip and one he can't. That's why he is all beat to shit.

[lahnnabell]

Haha, sounds like my kinda cat!! My cat Puck had a neurological problem. If he entered a new room, or one that had a layout he was unfamiliar with, his head would shake back and forth. Eventually it subsided when he became comfortable with his surroundings, but I flipped the first time it happened.

Ah, but I loved him dearly! But he died of heart failure. Hehe, thread digression much?

[CocoChanel]

Omg. That would have freaked me the hell out. I just got chills and my heart is beating fast. LOL!

Yes LB. The hardest part of breaking up is when you have a cat you can't get rid of.

[cmacattack1]

See that's what I'd tell my mother. But she was always so insistent that I would've "just known" ...... "she's not right for you blah blah blah" ..... my mother projected so much all over the relationship it wasn't even funny. I just know that we're all "in progress" so ya there's work to be done while actually in the relationship.

Very funny that you mention it. My mom did the same thing, "if she was the right one, it would just happen, you would have treated her right." What a ridiculous mentality. I see now where I get that stubborness and jaded perspective on love.

Seeing as how she has had many abusive relationships, had me with a man that skipped town that I have never seen or met, and is now currently in a relationship with a guy that she cares about, but does not love, because she's getting too old to try again. It really says alot. I'm glad I'm figuring this out now, you should be too. Some people go through life not wanting to turn it around.

[Perryville]

The second hardest part about breaking up is that my ex wife gave the best head, ever!! I really miss those BJ'S.