Getting Over my First Love

[justAlex]

I guess I should start out by explaining who I am.
I'm a 21 year-old lesbian college student who's been with my girlfriend for over a year.

That said,

I'm a wreck right now.

My second serious girlfriend broke up with me 8 days ago, and I can't keep solid food down. I can't sleep. I can't stop crying. I can't function.

She said we were too serious and she wanted attention from other girls. So she just wants to date.

But she loves me.

She started sleeping with a girl she kissed (while we were together), over the summer. It should also be noted that she's slept with this girl before (before me).

This girl is notorious for being flaky. She'll sleep with a girl for 3 weeks, then drop off the planet for a month. She's straight up trailer park.

I'm about to graduate, and I'm anticipating a salary that can put her through grad school and support us both. That was our plan. I'm looking at buying a condo this summer in the hippest part of Nashville. I'm a freaking catch is what I'm trying to say. I just don't get why she wants this other girl.

I can't believe I was so easily replaced.

Half of me feels like if she loved me, we wouldn't be having this problem. Like she'd just want me.

But the other half of me feels like I deserve someone who will love me with all their heart (but who's to say she doesn't and just doesn't know how to deal with it).

She claims she wants to get back together eventually. She also says she wants me the most when I'm independent and want to do my own thing, but I want to be with her when we're together.

I feel like my soul has died. Someone please give me some advice: do I hang on and wait for her, or do I move on?

[Heratriumphant]

Move on honey.

Love isn't just feelings, it's actions. What ever she may say her actions don't look like love.

[lhn]

I get the feeling you already know what everyone is going to say... an it aint nice!

You deserve so much better and it sucks you got caught up with a girl that doesnt have the maturity to know what she wants.

Stand back from this a little. Decide whether you want to go through the next few years being treated exactly the same. It could happen - would you be happy or would you be typing on an internet forum for advice?

Sorry to hear about your situation. It sucks so much. One minute you're everything and the next, nothing. The pain is incredible.

[Petit Papillon]

Honey I know You`re upset and have problems ,but DON`T POST THE SAME THREAD IN ANOTHER SECTION. If someone will want to reply to Your post,they will. And it`s extremely annoying to find the same thread in different places over and over again. Besides You got some replies here,so why instead of answering You decided to post a double thread? Watch out.