Why are guys so complicated?

[LailaK]

I love men (if I didn't I would've switched teams years ago), but I've noticed something lately: You lot are ABSOLUTELY INSANE.

I don't understand the things that you say and do. I'm thinking of giving up hurting my head trying to understand any of it.

I recently stopped talking to a guy I like because he wanted to "just be friends". He had gotten himself a new girlfriend and although he claimed that he liked me more she was the one he was choosing. To be fair she lives much closer to him than I do so if his goal is to get laid on a regular basis she was the correct choice and I can respect that.

I told him that I liked him way too much to be his friend. Maybe after I had gotten over him we could be friends.

He wrote to me on xmas and I wrote back, just a simple "Merry Christmas to you to." I was in the holiday spirit, plus I've been seeing someone who is amazing. I felt like I was over the long distance dude so I unblocked him from AIM. Immediately, he started talking to me, grilling me about what I've been doing and if I've been seeing anyone. I mentioned my new guy and the questions were endless: "What does he do?" "Do you like him?" "Is he any good in bed?"

Finally I asked him what his deal was. I'm not that curious about his gf why is he so curious about this guy I'm seeing? His answer: "You're a really special girl. I want to make sure you're with someone who deserves you."

I told him that I had enough wannabe uncles/brothers in my life and the last thing I needed was another guy "looking out for me". He laughed and said "Honestly, I'm just jealous. You sound really into him, I just wish it were me you were talking about."

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UGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHH! That crap makes me so mad! A month ago I was talking about him like that and you know what, he threw it away. I told him as much and also said that we couldn't be friends if he was going to say sh*t like that.

He had his chance and now that I've moved on and have another chance at happiness he's trying to eff it up for me.

Why do guys do things like that? It's insane and it's stupid on so many levels. I wouldn't be so mad if it weren't for the tiny flutter of hope I felt in my heart when he said he was jealous.

I hate love.

[shheadz]

Women do all this same stuff!

[lahnnabell]

That's lame! Fcuk that guy. I hope he was at least single and not disrespecting his current girlfriend. Even if he was, gives you another reason to avoid this d*ck.

[SirWagginston]

I'm sorry you had to deal with that. But you shouldn't let it color your thoughts about our whole gender. Just like there are some special girls out there who don't have any of the stereotypical bitchy qualities, there are special boys, too. I like to think I'm one of them. Guys like me are complicated in a lot of ways, but I've always been extremely straightforward when it comes to love.

[LailaK]

I know all guys aren't stupid. I was just venting. At least now I know that I can never even be friends with that douchebag.

He isn't single by the way!!! Ugh.

[Spency]

I think block him again and never unblock him.

Sounds like you are with someone much better now, so dont let him wind you up.

As mentioned else where, women do the same, as I found out last night lol !

[soulsurvivor23]

Yeah as someone said, girls do the same shit....

But anyways, your situation isn't complicated at all, it goes like this. Sometimes guys tend to want more what they can't have.. Hence the reason he started to wish it was him when you became unavailable and happy with someone else. Regardless, don't even worry about it, if you're happy forget him he had his chance.

[LoveHurts09]

Yeah as someone said, girls do the same shit....

But anyways, your situation isn't complicated at all, it goes like this. Sometimes guys tend to want more what they can't have.. Hence the reason he started to wish it was him when you became unavailable and happy with someone else. Regardless, don't even worry about it, if you're happy forget him he had his chance.

u forgot the part where once he has u he wants the next girl he cant have... they call them players

[BoredGeorge]

Men are not complicated. Bitches are complicated.

Here is the man checklist.

1. Is she ugly ? If 'no' then proceed. Go to 2.
2. Is she an insane bitch ? If 'no' then proceed. If yes then goto 3.
3. Is she hot. if 'yes' then she is good to go.
4. If insane > hot then dump the bitch.
5. Hot = - Hot (t). Hotness decreases with time.

[soulsurvivor23]

u forgot the part where once he has u he wants the next girl he cant have... they call them players

Female players exist too.... This from someone who has been played by my fair share.

[CAM]

Good luck with all that.

[IndiReloaded]

his goal is to get laid on a regular basis she was the correct choice and I can respect that.

You already answered your own question^. Don't make men more complicated than they are.

What you shouldn't do is lie about it. You don't respect it, nor do you have to. Shrug. You might have gotten better results if you just told him straight what you were hoping for instead of pretending to support his choice.

[LailaK]

You already answered your own question^. Don't make men more complicated than they are.

What you shouldn't do is lie about it. You don't respect it, nor do you have to. Shrug. You might have gotten better results if you just told him straight what you were hoping for instead of pretending to support his choice.

I don't think I should talk to him about my feelings (or hopes) at all. He doesn't deserve that. He made his choice and I respected it by not pursuing him further. I didn't like his choice, but I respected it.

I broke off all contact with him and now he's trying to rekindle what was there. That's confusing to me. I understand not wanting a long distance relationship. I don't understand what he wants from me now.

I'm not going to talk to him about it. He likes to play games and I'm tired of them. There are plenty of other nice guys I could date that are less of a headache.

[lahnnabell]

That's the right attitude, Laila. This dude just wants some extra attention on the side. Since you guys are far enough away from each other, I'm sure he thinks his girlfriend won't know/suspect anything. He has no respect for her, or you. Forget him.