I need help!

[confusedgirl912]

It has been weeks since I've slept well...
All I ever do is think about this guy.
I gave my first kiss away to this guy not even knowing what we are.
He did court me before but as time passed he began to lose interest in talking to me or being with me.I thought he already got fed up with me,i'm a conservative girl and he's a playboy.His reputation makes me wonder if he was being true, because from what I know he uses girls just for his own pleasure and rise of ego.This new year we got back together and for the first time I made out with someone,I was pretty scared because he was getting to be aggressive, I still managed to control everything though.He still doesn't communicate like he used to, and it makes me wonder.Did I do something wrong before to make him treat me this way now?Now that he’s done making out with me will he leave me for his next victim? Or, is he reformed from his old ways and ready to get real serious with me?I'm really scared of the uncertainty of our relationship, scared to know it was all for fun.Scared to be hurt, and yet, wanting it really badly. Wanting to now it was all true…and I didn’t mistake on giving him my first kiss, that I didn’t make a mistake……..on loving him.

[IncognitoSir]

If you're conservative, why are you interested in a playboy? (maybe a dumb question) I think you need to find out what his intentions are before you make anymore moves with him. If he cant be str8 up with you, then you have your answer. Not to mention if the guy has a reputation, do you honestly believe he's made the necessary changes to fit your needs? If not, why waste your time and effort and tears?

[confusedgirl912]

I didn't look at him this way before. I really despised him. I don't know, I guess somewhere along the way (with all our conversations and all) I really started to believe that he wants change and that there is good in him. He's not a bad friend, but i don't know how he is as more than that. I've been a person who believes in change, and thanks to some friends' advice about guys being fed up once they already did whatever evil deed it was, I really began hoping that he is already fed up with hurting girls. I'm seriously rethinking things. Thank you very much for that wonderful insight.It helps me out a lot. : )

[shheadz]

It's usually not a good sign when a guy stops communicating like that. Often -- but not always -- it means he realized he's not going to get what he wants from you, so he's backing off and looking for his next victim.