ex bf wants to be with me but doesnt know....really confused?!

[xyoungeternityx]

Boyfriend of 7 months and I broke up last week . He wasnt over his ex of 3 years.

It wasnt a bad break up, still texted etc, after thinking things through, I felt it was a mistake cos he'd told me that he wouldnt want to get back with her (she ended it with him) as she treated him so horribly. I told him this and he said he needs some time to sort his head out. I agreed and told him I understand.

Next day, he texts. I reply. He texts again. I dont reply cos he wanted space. No contact for 2 days.

On friday, I am about to go out with my friend, was pretty upset still about the break up and needed time with friends. He texts me saying to wrap up warm if Im going out later. I dont reply. then I get 7 missed calls from him, then he turns up at my house asking to talk.

We talked on the way to meet my friend, he said he wanted to be with me, I was right for him and I make him happy etc etc. I told him I felt the same. He knew that already. (Bear in mind, he had just come from drinks with workmates, but he seemed okay)

He comes out with my friends. Gets drunk. Spend my night making sure he doesnt get into trouble. Ask him if he wants me to put him in a taxi home but he gets all moody saying I dont want him and that he loves me. I told him this isnt true. He sobers himself up quite a bit. He comes back to mine, one thing leads to another and then in the morning, he tells me he cant remember much from last night.

I told him what he'd told me. He said he had come to my house cos he hated the thought of me going out and finding someone else. That everything he said was true but just acted out wrongly and on a drunken impulse.

I told him that he knows that I want to be with him, and waht he did was wrong. He said he wants to be with me too but 'doesnt know'. I told him no contact til he decides then. He didnt like this but accepted it.

Asks if he can talk later, I say yes thinking its about this but it was just about what my friend told him about the night before. Jokey texts. I replied to some, not spoken since the last one late saturday night. 4 days no contact now.

What does this mean do you think?
Should I contact him?
Any help would be so appreciated.

[lhn]

I think so far you have been very fair, mature and open-minded to all this.

From what you've said, I think he digs you. You clearly like him but need clarity, and rightfully so.
Stay back for a little while longer. Let him decide by himself. Perhaps he is still in contact with his ex and is closing things off that end.

I think you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. Hopefully you'll both be very happy together if things go that way.

[MCA622]

As hard as it is, leave him be. Try to not think about it. go out with friends, keep yourself busy. he has to make up his mind, hopefully it doesnt take long. my ex has been trying to figure things out for about 4 weeks now