She needs time to think?

[NewToLove]

Hi, I have a question, my baby recently just told me she needs time to think, and so i didn't ask why or what, because if she wanted to tell me, she would. So she didn't tell me, I'm giving her the space she wants, but she would text and ask how Im feeling, I would tell her, im feeling okay and just worried about her, she would say sorry but still won't explain her situation. So all I gave her was words of encouragements and support. at this point im not sure what to think, but since im pessimistic, negative thoughts do haunt me, I'm trying to calm down and I need some insight.

[bloodtippedrose]

Hmm. maybe she's interested in someone else and she wants time to think if she wants to stay with you. Maybe she thinks the relationship is moving too fast. Maybe one of her friends has a good boyfriend and shes not getting treated the way she sees her friend be treated and shes a little envious. I have no clue whats going on in the girls head, you know her better than I do. I don't think you should let yourself be strung along though. If she doesn't give some kind of explanation within a week or two then you should come out and ask whats going on and demand an answer or you walk. You deserve an answer, not to be played.

[Wiredbomb0]

btr is right, you'll need to get an answer sooner or later (preferably sooner rather then later). From the sounds of it, to me, it doesn't sound like she's interested in someone else (don't quote me on that lmao), so you don't have worry about that. Just go and take a break for a while, and just relax, and not to stress out about, I'm sure everything will work out for you man

(btw: If it's okay to ask, how old are you?)

[TheWizard]

stay positive and supportive and you'll be better off. Make sure she knows you're open to discussing something should the need come up. Wallowing will rub off on her and won't help the situation. I would suggest picking up some hobbies or hanging out with your guy friends a bit in the meantime to help you stop thinking about it too much.

We all know a woman's mind is kind of like the movie "The Cell" - and none of us want to wander in there now do we

[lahnnabell]

Wizard, you made me laugh with that last remark. Yeah, even we don't want to be in there a lot of the time.

I don't see why you feel you shouldn't have asked for an explanation. I would've kindly demanded one. Her decision affects you as well considering you've been in each other's lives for some time now. If she can't communicate these things to you, then the relationship will not be successful in the long run. You guys will have to learn to talk about this stuff. Letting it fester causes anger and resentment and those will eat away at the foundation of any relationship.

[NewToLove]

Thanks everyone. Turns out she thinks we're moving too fast mentally, she says she doesn't want a huge commitment cause she's still so young, we're opposites on many things but we sing the same song at a different tune...

We're in the last year of highschool, our relationship is going well, on the physical level we're really comfortable with each other, and mentally we are as well, but I think she felt i was commited to marrying her and having kids with her and I think she thinks that because we had discussions about that...

I did demand for explanation and she gave me one, it hurt, but I know it's only logical not to commit at such a young age, no we're good again =)

[Illusional]

she's thinking if you are the right guy for you, and if she wants to continue this relationship. honestly though, if she's already apologizing, then there could possibly another person in the picture. if there isn't, then she already knows that she doesn't want to be with you. instead of giving her space, you should talk to her and help her sort out hers and your feelings.

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[lionwoman]

Even though you didn't expect that type of response, maybe it's best so that you do know. If she's feeling this way, maybe it's a sign from the universe and it's trying to tell you that she may not be the person you end up building your life with. There's nothing wrong with that. Stay close to her but be careful about sharing EVERYTHING with her right now. Just try to observe how she interacts with you some more to get an idea of how she's feeling.

[bloodtippedrose]

Thanks everyone. Turns out she thinks we're moving too fast mentally, she says she doesn't want a huge commitment cause she's still so young, we're opposites on many things but we sing the same song at a different tune...

We're in the last year of highschool, our relationship is going well, on the physical level we're really comfortable with each other, and mentally we are as well, but I think she felt i was commited to marrying her and having kids with her and I think she thinks that because we had discussions about that...

I did demand for explanation and she gave me one, it hurt, but I know it's only logical not to commit at such a young age, no we're good again =)

In high school my bf of 2 yrs talked about committing to each other and it made me feel uncomfortable. Im 21 now and living with a new bf and it still makes me a little uncomfortable because, even though I love my bf and don't see myself breaking up with him, I don't want to commit yet..

As far as my high school bf, it is a good thing we didnt move in with each other or choose the same college or something else like that, because he ended up cheating on me.

My advice: enjoy the relationship while it lasts. If it ends, which is highly probable because it sounds like she wants to experience alot more then a committed relationship, take it as a huge learning experience. First kisses/ losing virginity.. all practice for your future. You should experience relationships with different girls, then you will know EXACTLY what you want out of a relationship