Hi all,
I will get straight to the point. A bit of background on "the man", he is 44 I am 42, divorced (twice) first wife, legitimate grew apart, second lasted 13 months, she cheated on him, the last live in relationship - she was an alcoholic and screwed him up, finally he got her out. He is a well educated man, and as his family told me "he had attracted the wrong girls" (they were all model looking and beautiful. Then I came along, well educated, totally different to the other girls, he said I was pretty, I have a son and I am well grounded. I was opposite to what he had. We had hopes and dreams, (the same) etc etc. We loved each other deeply. I knew he had been wild in his day, but it seems it is still there. I live in another state. We planned on getting married ,settling down, maybe even a child together (maybe). His mother needs care and has decided she will not move from her condo on the beach, so now all of a sudden, "he has to stay and look after his mom" and now he is confused and does not know what he wants out of life. Maybe one woman is not enough, maybe he wants to date a few, (so unlike him to say this before!!!!), he wants the wild life, wants to go out every night and drink with his friends. Mind you his friends, well same age not married, one even has two girls going at the same time and is an alcoholic. He calls them loosers and wanted to change his life. But now he thinks he wants to stay that way, single etc.
This happened all of a sudden, oh yeah, he still loves me but does not know what will happen or what he wants. I thought itw as because his house went into foreclosure and he had to sell his business, he now has no job. But I did not care I loved him. What is he saying to me????????????
Why has he turned into this party animal and yes, he is drinking way way to much in fact the past few months I think he is depedant on the booze. Help me.