why is he doing this?

**chloelesliexo** · 24-01-10, 08:58 PM

so heres my story.
me and my ex were together for over a year and were very happy together.
then out of the blue 6 weeks ago he leaves me for someone else; a 16 year old girl who lives a half hour drive away.
logically it will never work.

anyway since then i did make the mistake of begging him to come back but since then have gone no contact.
so ive let him get on with his life, i miss him like hell and am nowhere near over him.

However last week i got an email from him saying i cheated on him and am a slut etc etc.
All untrue, he knows i was faithful

So i leave it and continue NC but on wednesday i get an email saying "i love you" assuming it wasnt my ex i sent a reply back asking to whoever it was to leave me alone.
I then emailed him saying that i loved him veryu much but i had to move on so then i took his stuff to his house and left it on his doorstep (he refused to collect it)

so i think thats it, and then today i have had lots of emails saying that i cheated, that he is so over me and telling everyone im bad news.

what is going on?
he's got his new gf, why is he still making my life difficult?
please help.

**shheadz** · 24-01-10, 09:19 PM

To me it sounds like he's trying to sooth his own ego. He may have broken up with you, but you're crushing his ego by not calling him day and night begging him to come back.

**chloelesliexo** · 24-01-10, 09:34 PM

does he want me back then? or is he just fuelling his ego.
others have said taht it because he feels like he's made a mistake and doesnt want me to move on.
im just so confused.

**sookie6** · 24-01-10, 09:59 PM

He must feel that he is the bad guy in the story and also some shame at sleeping with a 16 year old girl (underage girl) and therefore is making up your cheating on him and your misbehaving...while you have nothing to be ashamed of...

He knows that he is probably seen in a very poor light now by friends and family and needs you to be the defective partner in this...

He doesn't want to take his stuff back= not reading to leave his life with you behind.

Question now is: do you want this man back in your life. His cock-ups seem to pile on now...

**chloelesliexo** · 24-01-10, 10:06 PM

i dont know whether i want him back but i'm willing to explore it.
as in see if we can work through the problems.

but if he doesnt want me back then i need to move on now
its been 6 weeks.
its sort of like crunch tim.e

**sookie6** · 24-01-10, 10:19 PM

Originally Posted by chloelesliexo

i dont know whether i want him back but i'm willing to explore it.
as in see if we can work through the problems.

but if he doesnt want me back then i need to move on now

Noone can tell you what to do but you need to remember that this guy is a liar and chases very young girls....so would he make for a stable partner?...

I'd say he did you a favor by leaving....

But again I know that love makes us blind so...

**chloelesliexo** · 24-01-10, 10:21 PM

yeah i know youre completly right, mayber one day thats how i'll feel.

i just sort of need an outsiders view on what the liklihood of him returning is, i guess im kinda biased lol.
because i dont want to hang on if theres no hope.

**shheadz** · 24-01-10, 10:21 PM

It doesn't mean he wants you back. He just wants you to want him back. Even if you did get back together, he would have that "I won!" moment, and probably leave you again not too long after.

**Perryville** · 24-01-10, 11:38 PM

He is wanting drama, that's all.

**tufty** · 25-01-10, 02:17 AM

16 isnt underage in the Uk. although it is very young - unless he is 18 - who knows.

Anyway chloe, dust yourself down, take a bubble bath, do your hair, paint your nails, look in the mirror and repeat after me

' i am too good for him' x3

the laugh at urself for doing it - then bounce out of the bathroom with a swing in your step.

your next chapter begins now...

**grey** · 26-01-10, 12:32 PM

i know you must love and miss him.

but I think its almost a dealbreaker in my book when a guy cheats and then ACCUSES YOU of being the cheater. Would you really want him accusing you of cheating the rest of your life when HE IS the oNE that is cheating and leaving you?

btw, do you know for a fact he didn't cheat? Usually if someone finds someone else right away, something happened prior.

**girl68** · 26-01-10, 02:11 PM

I'd be willing to bet little miss 16 year old sent you that shit. In which case you ignore each and every time.

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