whats with guys and space????

[CAM]

Verse 3 is "Now, let me watch the damned game in peace!"

[chrisy]

My first question for you is: "Why do you want a guy who is treating you in such a manner?"

Please be aware that if this relationship continues, this behavior would not stop with this one incident. There is a high probability that he would behave in the same manner whenever he does not have his way. It seems that his motto is "my way or the highway." What else would he do whenever he is displeased with you? Would he deny you sex for a specific period? Love/affection? Emotional support? Would he disappear for a certain time period? What else would he do to punish you? You need to really think about the ramifications of his behavior.

You were too clingy/needy/desperate - please get a grip on your emotions. This guy appears to be on a "power trip" and is fully exercising his power in the relationship because he knows that you love/need/want him. You are more into him than he is into you - he can walk and he knows it - hence he scolds you, reprimands you as if you were a child, withholds the treasure (himself) that he knows you want. This is disrespectful to you as an adult even though you did behave badly with him.

Respect his wishes - don't call/text/email him. Move on. He pushes your "desperate" buttons and uses his "whip" to keep you under control. Change course - dysfunction ahead.

[Katherine]

When I read this post, it was like look at myself into the mirror.

[grey]

the first time he said, its going to be longer if you keep contacting me I didn't think was that bad. B/c it sounds like you were going overboard and I think any frustrated person might say that.

BUT NOW, he's doing it again. He is a controlling jerk. When you text in an accident, thats still rude that he wouldn't at least contact you back. I"ve been on breaks with guys and on 2 occassions, they have helped me out even though we were broken up.

Also, your original argument is only something that any woman would want. committment. although you sounded a little pushy about that, any woman would have.

I was giving this guy the benfit of the doubt, that first e-mail but after not responding to you in an accident and continuing this a**hole behaviour is grounds for you to leave immediatly.

Plus, like someone else said, he has other divorcee issues and b/c he's 38 the likely hood of him changing now is pretty slim.

[bluesummer]

He's a jerk. You should know this now. Just STOP contacting him....you don't need to 'talk about it' or 'cut ties' or any of that junk. There's nothing to talk about. Even if he calls you again, don't answer. He needs to learn some way or another that he can't act like a controlling prick and still have his way in the end.

And YOU: stop the ridiculous calling/texting/email stuff already! What is it that propels this compulsion in you to bombard someone with communication 24/7, especially when they've told you to back off because it's damaging the relationship? I don't know any man that likes to be assaulted with texts and calls and overemotional emails. You need to work on your clinginess and insecurity issues.

All in all, this is two sided, and your personalities are clearly opposing. Just move on, and don't feel like you need to email him to tell him so.

[green17]

I think both people are in the wrong here. The OP should have been less clingy. The OP's boyfriend was too controlling.