We've been together two years, he was together with his ex two years as well. Had a break of two years before he met me.
In the beginning he mentioned her quite a lot, perhaps the first two months. Not in a particularly great way, just spoke about her. He has never put her down when he has spoken of her, but the things he has said has just given an impression he thought they were not meant to be together and that he used to "calm her down a 1000 times" and that he used to do everything when they lived together (no kids!).
It is as if she has had problems letting go. For instance she has contacted him a lot both online (although he never is online...) and on the phone. In the beginning it didn't bother me - and he also started not answering back - months could pass by.
Then he suddenly heard from one of his friends who had bumped into her - that she was really "disappointed" with him! She put out pictures of them, tagging them, where he held her - happy pictures from when they were together.
It's been almost a year now where he hasn't had contact with her. And I have told him how she comments about our life (because I'm still online ) whenever someone mentions something about us or tags pictures of us.
He helped her during the time after their breakup because she met someone just 3 days after they broke up! - and this relationship didn't last so "she didn't have others to turn to". He has also said that she acted strange the last time he saw her (about a year ago) as "if they were still together" and had said they were more close than he might think...
It's actually begun to bother me, and it annoys me! I have of course shared this with him. He gets in this "thinking mode", saying he understands me. He asked if he should delete his profile because it would be no problem, I said I didn't want him to do that.
Somehow it still gets to me - although he has been quite convincing.
He said about a year ago he had no romantic feelings for her but she still meant something to him. I said I was not happy with them still speaking when it felt as if she was still interested in him.
He kept pictures of her but when we moved and I was going through everything the pictures were gone. He might have thrown them out - or what.
I don't know how to completely get this out of my head.
It feels as if he is willing to help me with this no matter what it takes.
Should I be as concerned as I am?
what could I do to let this go?