I really need a female advice here...
Most of the story can be read at this thread: 1-just-got-dumped-msn-after-wonderful-1y-relationship-need-help-pls (sry cannot link i m under 15 posts)
but since it's a bit a wall of text, i'll summarize:
Met her in 2007 while couchsurfing in Athens(she was my host). Didn't like her physically at all at first. But after one week at her place, i loved her personality. I've never met someone like her, so open minded, so honest, so innovative and right in educating her child.
We met a few other times, but we started going out in Berlin on the 1st of January 2009.
She fell in love with me. But i live in switzerland, so even though we managed to see each other a few weeks every 2 months, i started getting crazy, and she was missing me too much, each time much more, each time i found her more beautiful(although i didn't like her at all at first).
Background on myself : i had nothing to offer her. When i wrote her a letter about how much i loved her(which started it all) i said i was ready to go all the way to please her(i was an heroin addict, i drink too much etc,)
SHe accepted me. I pretty much managed to quit heroin but while she was away, i was still drinking too much, and i think she could listen to it on the phone many times.
But when we were together, i was behaving, still drinking, but casually.
Then ensues one year of my best relationship ever. I never thought i could learn to love someone, i thought you had to fall in love. But this time i wanted to try another approach, which was GREAT.
OK so i go to greece for the christmas vacation, all is great, just a hint i didn't pay too much attention at : her lack of enthusiasm about me speaking to come live in Greece. She just said my ideas weren't bad and perfectly doable(being a private french teacher).
Last phone call : she misses me awfully, we laugh, we have phone sex, she tells me it's been a long time since she didn't play since i was gone, and it was only one week...She complains that it's sooo long, she misses me soo much etc.
THen, 3 days later on msn : I don't love you anymore, and i hate myself for that.
Explanation on the phone : she met a guy she hasn't seen for 25 years, and they made love, and now she wants to spend her life with him
WHAT THE ****KKKKKK
BEside note : she has been faithful(and i'm sure of that) the whole year, which is A HUGE DEAL for her, because she looooves sex. Still she never cheated on me, and reacted in a preventive way when she felt it was going to happen : "GOOOOO AWAAAAAY". And i completely believe her.
So...the thing is that i still want to live in Greece. She told me she was still ok to help me achieve this. I don't think she'll come back. But i also doubt her story with the guy. IMHO since she has an 8 y. o son, she feared that problems could arise, that my drinking wasn't a good example.even though i was down to 3 beers/day when i left her.
SO for now i am in NC. But i need her help to move.(i had sooo much fun, and if mostly because of her, i found out that i loved Athens' life.
The NC is not a trouble for now because i have to wait to ask her questions and stuff since i don't want to move before the end of summer. But still, i really would like her back she's a 9.9 on 10.
Can i use the excuses of asking for things i'm wondering about greek life to break No Contact? Plus i really have reasons to do so, i was supposed to do a website that she would translate into greek, and many other things...
I don't want to say anything meaning begging, telling how much i miss her etc. I just want to speak to her and ask genuine questions, with the hope of being able to discern if there's still a possibility for us.
Bad idea or not?