For the insecure men and women out there
Hi, im just back from a break on LF (strictly due to work and other matters) and i've notice that most post nowadays are posted by people who are insecure or have really low self-esteem (no judging, just point out the fact). So here are things that i want to tell those people:
1. Im also a insecure person (im not smart enough, pretty enough, people are always better than me) but believe me, when you are in a relationship with the right person, all those problem will disappear. If you believe you're in a relationship with the right person, get over yourself!
2. It's commitment if you give your partner a second chance but it's just low self esteem that you allow people to cheat on you several times. Are you crap? Are you deserve to be treated like crap?
3. Believe in yourself, dont desperate for love, if you're 19 and no lover, IT'S OK. If you're 21 and no lover, IT'S OK. If you're 27 and no lover, IT'S STILL OK. Be yourself and love will craw its way to you.
Im not writing this to tell you people are stupid or low sefl esteem. I'm writing this to assure you guys that everything's going to be ok. Even if you're worry or scared of it, rather than being depressed, keep going and being your excellent self. People will notice. You cant find love, it'll find you. Just make sure you're ready
And here are the points for the low sefl esteem to do in the meantime (while waiting for love):
1. Dont be depressed.
2. Dont be scared.
3. Learn to be a better person: dont judge people (he's not my type etc), focus on your friends or carrer or anything that makes you happy.
4. Think about other people feelings.
5. Be observant.
6. Believe in what i said: believe in yourself. (or only tell those who are really close to you - 1 to 2 people - about your insecurities and act confident in front of the rest. People cant really tell if you're confident or just acting so either way is OK)
The fact that you're so desperate to be in a relationship just show how that you arent ready for it
keep it simple
Self-esteem isn't bragging about how great you are. It's more like quietly knowing that you're worth a lot (priceless, in fact!). It's not about thinking you're perfect — because nobody is — but knowing that you're worthy of being loved and accepted.
"Me, I try to send this note
float it like a paper boat
But paper sinks
and words are weak
i try, but i cant speak"