Its over

[bigdanny185]

Well I bet quite a lot of you's predicted I would be posting in here pretty soon. My relationship of five years is now over. However I have left the door open to her. She wants to be on her own and sort her head out properly so I said ok. I told her that if she ever figured that she was making a mistake then to text me and we will work it out. She also said she would like to think one day we got back together.

[Tallgeese]

Hello Big Danny, you deserve better than a woman who can not decide after 5 years if she wants to be with you. When a girl says she needs time to sort her head out, this means she wants to make romance with another man. Do not let her sucker you into staying around as her back up plan.

[cmacattack1]

Typical mistake that we make is that we will tell them we want to work it out and we will wait around. I remember saying that. Then one time I got an angry call from my ex saying "OH YOU THINK YOU ARE GETTING ANOTHER CHANCE?" I just told her that I wanted to work on things and that I wasn't going to wait around. The next call I got from her was a sad depressing one. As stupid as it seems, as ridiculous as a game it seems to do this, telling them that you are waiting around is just lighting up some road flares and waving them in the air saying "I WILL BE YOUR CUSHION."

Not that you should try and scare them into getting back with you, but saying that is just pushing them away further. When it comes to all the ridiculous things we say when we are emotionally wrapped up, or nothing at all, it's always better to just say nothing. They will be the one wondering what's going on with you.

[IncognitoSir]

Typical mistake that we make is that we will tell them we want to work it out and we will wait around. I remember saying that. Then one time I got an angry call from my ex saying "OH YOU THINK YOU ARE GETTING ANOTHER CHANCE?" I just told her that I wanted to work on things and that I wasn't going to wait around. The next call I got from her was a sad depressing one. As stupid as it seems, as ridiculous as a game it seems to do this, telling them that you are waiting around is just lighting up some road flares and waving them in the air saying "I WILL BE YOUR CUSHION."

Not that you should try and scare them into getting back with you, but saying that is just pushing them away further. When it comes to all the ridiculous things we say when we are emotionally wrapped up, or nothing at all, it's always better to just say nothing. They will be the one wondering what's going on with you.

This is so very true. The BEST thing you can do is just stay to yourself. You will see how quickly things come into perspective for both you and her. I've realized hom much better my life has been without my ex. Yeah I miss her, but things are much better than they were. I know you've been feeling like shit during the final stages of your relationship man. As bad as you might feel right now, believe me, its gonna get a lot better bro. Post her instead of contacting her and when she does call you and text you, stand firm and hold your grown.

[Lite]

I think you just need to stop talking with her and work on moving on with your life. If you two bump into each other in a few years and she's pulled her head out of her ass romantically speaking, then hey give it a shot. But you deserve far better than to wait around seeing if she'll wise up and come running back.