Is it possible?

[HersTrully]

I really need an advice on this one, especially from women..
Do you know that perfect love you live and feel once in your life? That one person that literally completes you? That inocent, pure, perfect love? She was my first girlfriend and is the person who I most loved in my entire life. Unfortunely we had some personal problems at some time (when I say personal I mean individual problems) that afected our relationship.
We hurt eachother alot back then and, since we were kids, we didn't know how to deal with the problems. The more we tried to fix things the worse they would get. It even got to the point that we hated each other and said horrible things to eachother.
We decided to end it and go on with our lives separated.
It's been two years since then, I am in a relationship, and she is too (we don't talk but I know this from other people).
My current girlfriend is amazing, she is there for me in every aspect, she's beautiful, inteligent, a good friend, we have alot in common and the sex is great. Still... I never felt that strong passionate love for her, as I felt for my ex-girlfriend.
We go on vacation with friends to have alot of fun, you know, those rare times in life where you seem almost perfectly happy, far away from problems and responsabilities, it's just you and the ones you love in a happy place! And still in those rare moments, I find myself missing my ex-girlfriend, it's like she's the missing piece to make that cake perfect.

Now here goes the actual problem:

Recently (a couple of days ago) my ex-girlfriend speaked to me through MSN (I thought I was blocked or something). It was awkward in the beggining because it has been two years since our last chat, but then it grew to a loving conversation.
We talked straight for 7 hours, she told me she feels exactly the same way I do, that her boyfriend is perfect in everyway but she still misses me, she thinks alot about me, when some special music plays or whatever.
She said that it was not our fault, we were kids who couldn't deal at the time with our relationship and private problems. Still she said she forgived me for every bad thing I did, as I forgived her.
She admited that she is going to put an end to her relationship because dispite his perfectness, she's not in love with him.

She than asked me if, we were both single someday, If we could somehow give it a second shot.

My heart almost jumped out of my chest, it's like a miracle, something I had been waiting for the last 2 years. Of course I would like that second chance? No doubt about it!

But.. and here comes the real problem.. Whenever that happens.. Since it has been two years and we are not in love anymore, we don't even love eachother anymore, we just miss our love.. Is it possible that we fall in love with each other again?

Please based on your experience be sincere, the fact that the love of my life wants to get back to me is, alone, the best thing that ever happened to me, I don't want to give it false hopes and end up suffering again.

Do you think we can once again be as we once were?


Thank you in advance for your time

[Gigabitch]

Yes, it's possible. It's also possible that it won't be everything you hope it will because part of that wonderful, perfect love feeling was the fact that you were both so young and inexperienced you didn't know what it was like to break up and get hurt. Maturity will change the experience. That doesn't mean it can't be great, it will just be different.

In my experience, people develop the capacity to love more deeply as they get older. It's possible that you could have an even better relationship now than you did.

It's a risk, of course, but everything is a risk. I can tell you for sure that being with your current girlfriend while you're still in love with your ex is not fair. She deserves the same kind of love you're talking about. Let her go and give it a shot with your ex. Even if it goes down in flames, you will have tried and won't go through the rest of your life wondering what could have been.

[HersTrully]

I see myself as a good person, I have no intention what so ever to hurt my current girlfriend! And I certainly will not engage anything with my ex-girlfriend without putting an end to my current relationship.
Abou her beeing perfect and all that, it's all true! I like just about everything in her, but my feelings for her are not those crazy pationate feelings and I miss that! I miss falling asleep at night with a smile to the ears just by thinking of her, I miss alot of good feelings that I don't have for my current girlfriend. She's the person who was there when I broke up with my ex, she gave me her shoulder and dried my tears, and at somepoint, something started there. But it was not based in a passion, it was based in comfort and true friendship. I always ignored that, knowing that, with time, those feelings would change and grow. But the truth is that so far they haven't grown that much.. I indeed love her, but I'm just not crazy about her.. And I think it is not fair for both of us.. it is not fair for me to live just one huge passionate love story and be contented for the rest of my life, I am too young! And it is not fair to her because I think she is crazy about me..