What should I do now?

[Music4Life]

Hello!

So there is this guy that I went to high school with and university with but him and I were never really friends (yet we hung out with the same crowd). We talked a bit at the start of university but then stopped because he was always making fun of me (and not in a playful manner). A few months after graduation we go to the same social event and we strike up a conversation. I was pretty calm and relaxed because I didn't really think I cared about him at all. we laughed a few times and that was that. He then developed a crush on me. I didn't find out until after he was seeing someone (so obviously I didn't do anything). we still talked and joked around and started to become friends...until I developed feelings for him. when i tried to talk to him about it he told me it wasn't the right time for us and that at the moment he did not have romantic feelings for me. I then became upset and was usually rather touchy around him afterwards. Our friendship soon started to get worse, until he told me he didn't even want to go out with coffee with me to catch up. He told me we could remain friends through emails and whatnot, he just wasn't ready to talk to me in person. I know this sounds crazy and I should just move on, but what can i do to get this guy to see me for how I was before? I am that girl he started having a crush on. Should I just start acting like he was wrong, start acting how I was? I'm just so weird around him because I know I have feelings for him. What should I do?

[cmacattack1]

Unfortunately there isn't really much you can do. If he doesn't feel for you in the romantic manner, there isn't anything you can do to convince him. I'm sure he liked the attention, as we all like the ego boost of somebody liking us.

How did you find out he had a crush on you when he was seeing somebody else? Did he flat out tell you that while he was dating that somebody? That's a sketchball move if he did.

I know it's weird, I know it hurts to have these feelings when they don't feel the same way and there isn't a magical way to fix yourself up. You have to find things to do on your own, ways to make you happy, and soldier on.

They are the only person that can make you feel better, but there is no way to convince them of that and have them do so.

[Music4Life]

Unfortunately there isn't really much you can do. If he doesn't feel for you in the romantic manner, there isn't anything you can do to convince him. I'm sure he liked the attention, as we all like the ego boost of somebody liking us.

How did you find out he had a crush on you when he was seeing somebody else? Did he flat out tell you that while he was dating that somebody? That's a sketchball move if he did.

I know it's weird, I know it hurts to have these feelings when they don't feel the same way and there isn't a magical way to fix yourself up. You have to find things to do on your own, ways to make you happy, and soldier on.

They are the only person that can make you feel better, but there is no way to convince them of that and have them do so.

I found out he had a crush on me through a friend and when I confronted him he admitted to it. he wasnt dating her when he had a crush on me. he's single now and we still talk. he liked me before and really enjoyed talking to me, I just feel that if I lightened up and maybe was the way I was before (which is me on an everyday basis) then maybe he would see the girl he had a crush on before. but thanks for your kind words

[cmacattack1]

It'd be one thing if he came out to you directly, it's a whole other situation to hear it from somebody else and confront them on it. You only know for sure if they come out to you on their own terms about how they feel. Maybe he was unsure about it and felt the pressure when you cornered him. Either way, if he is currently telling you how he feels and it's that he doesn't feel that way about you, what can you do?

People's feelings and mind change all the time. Maybe it will happen again. It has to happen on it's own though. Do your best to just be you and try to get that weirdness out of the way. Do you need to be open about how you feel before that will happen? If you can suck it up without a heartfelt confession, I would do that. Concentrate on other things and other options in your life. Whatever makes you happy at the moment. I can't guarentee that things will work out in your favor, but things do tend to happen when we least expect them. And you are keeping yourself open for whatever opportunity comes your way. You really can't lose in that situation.

I can't wait to see you on here again when you have somebody else and THEN he comes at you pursuing something more.