Confused : /

[Cbrider]

So I have been going out with different girls and kind of testing the water for a few months now. I went out with a girl last weekend who I was set up with through a friends girlfriend. I thought she was cute, but I didn't get a feeling of connection initially. We had dinner and went back to play card games, then downtown to go dancing. As the night went on, the whole attraction thing did an absolute 180 and we crashed together on an air mattress at my friends place.

I take her home in the morning, get her number, the usual deal. I call her a few days later to see if she wanted to go out the next day. She didn't answer, so I left a voice mail and went about my day. I didn't hear anything for two days, which was weird because she was way into me a few days prior. We were drunk when we went to bed, but she acted just as attracted the next morning when we were sober. Anyway, I message her and ask her if she lost her phone or what and figured this was my last attempt before just writing it all off.

She tells me she had been under the weather, and that she was sorry she hadn't called. Under the weather turned out to be a pretty bad sprained ankle, but who's counting. I asked her if she was interested in going out again and she got all excited and said yes. At this point I am thoroughly confused about it all because I found it really strange she was excited to go out, but couldn't even text me/respond to my call? I set up a date for a few days later.

We got out, have fun, meet up with some friends of hers at a bar here next to campus. I'm talking to a bunch of my high school/college friends I know there and actually finding that her male friends and I have a lot in common. She's doing her thing, talking with her friends, but hugging me and putting her arms around me like were a couple. Her and I finally decide we need to go, as I have work in 4 hours and she is tired. I take her home and walk her to her door. I end up just crashing at her place since I am really tired and am not about to turn down a slumber party offer. I get up a few hours later and get ready to run by my place for a shower and grab my work clothes. I kiss her goodbye and vice versa and tell her I'll call her this weekend.

I call her yesterday and find out she is going to a concert with her friends, so I tell her we'll do something tomorrow (today). She says that would be great and goes to the concert. She flirts with me through texts the whole time she is at the concert and I am out with my friends. I text her early this afternoon to see what she is up to, no reply. I text her again this evening and invite her to go grab some food with me....no answer.

I don't have a clue whats going on, her behavior indicates she's into me when we are in person, but her communication tells a different story. Either way I am done trying to get a hold of her, because honestly, I am annoyed and find it a little rude. I tend to jump the gun on stuff, and maybe I am being impatient, but this whole thing just doesn't add up for me. Anyone have any insight into what is going on? It doesn't matter one way or another to me, I like her, but its not the end of the world.

[Doc Durian]

Maybe she's just crap with time, maybe she doesn't want to appear to into you as she likes you... Too early to say.

[Cbrider]

Yeah, I completely agree that its too early to make a call on it, but I am scratching my head as for what to do next. I guess I am just going to sit back and let it unfold, but I'll be damned if I pass up a date with another good looking girl. I have waited before, never again, lol.

[starbuck]

How annoying. I don't understand people who don't even have the courtesy to at least respond. If she can't talk or is undecided about her schedule, she could at least text you back and give you a time when she is.

I'd sit back and let her contact you. Or if you're going to contact her again, try to get a time that's good to call her so she can't be elusive. If she continues to give you mixed signals, write her off. This kind of behavior isn't worth your time.

[vashti]

Make sure you tell her at some point why you aren't contacting her anymore. She needs to understand that it was a direct result of her own rude behavior.

[Mish]

Take a break from her for a few days and then try again. Normally when I start to get to know somebody I usually do it gradually, I keep contact to once / twice a week kind of thing in the beginning.

[Cbrider]

Take a break from her for a few days and then try again. Normally when I start to get to know somebody I usually do it gradually, I keep contact to once / twice a week kind of thing in the beginning.

Yeah, sounds like a plan to me, I am too busy during the week to do anything as is. Work, School and trying to get to the gym/HW pretty much have my M-Th in check.