Saying I love you

[Ace1972]

My gf of 10 months is huge into honesty. I think that this is a great thing, but takes this and runs with it. If she doesn't "feel" something she will not say it. For me, I love you is very important to say as I am the type of person who if something happened like a car crash of whatever, I would not want it said that I did not tell her I loved her.

The fact that she does not always say it back is an annoyance and I have brought it up to her, but she just says that she is honest to a fault. She will also go to bed angry and I am the "sort it out" type of guy.

How do the women of the forum feel on this?

[QueenofCorona]

So she's said it before at least? To me, saying I love you is something important and quite sacred and to be said ONLY when you feel it. To me its not something that gets tossed out like, "Whats up?" or "Have a nice day" maybe she feels that way as well. Its not that she doesn't love you also, its just that she has to say it on her own terms.

[Ace1972]

So she's said it before at least? To me, saying I love you is something important and quite sacred and to be said ONLY when you feel it. To me its not something that gets tossed out like, "Whats up?" or "Have a nice day" maybe she feels that way as well. Its not that she doesn't love you also, its just that she has to say it on her own terms.

Queen of C-

She has said it oh yes. But, she will not toss it out there as you mentioned. Thanks for your reply.

[Gigabitch]

I don't think she has to say it every time you say it, but the fact that she's set up this "I only say it when I feel it" thing makes her look cold. So she only loves you sometimes?

I think this is hurtful. She could have told you that she always feels it but doesn't always say it or something like that and it would have been much kinder.

[Ace1972]

GB-

Thanks so much for the post-I agree, it does sound cold, but we have had our struggles and she is honest to a fault and does not sugar coat things. I am just glad that other women see this the same way, that they don't always say it when their man says it. I used to be the type of guy that would expect cuddles and or sex after a fight. I mean make up sex can be great, but when someone is pissed to ask them to be loving is not the right thing to do.

She and I have had a long talk and she has said that she loves me fully and always, but you just won't hear it from her at all times.

[Gigabitch]

She and I have had a long talk and she has said that she loves me fully and always, but you just won't hear it from her at all times.

That's more like it.

[Mish]

The one and only ex who ever said that to me turned out to be a master manipulator. Be careful.

[IndiReloaded]

The one and only ex who ever said that to me turned out to be a master manipulator. Be careful.

I agree with Giga and Mish. She sounds to me like she's hiding bitchiness behind righteousness. Look out. People who are 'honest' for its own sake w/o purpose often end up putting 'right' before people.