Hi,
I posted this in another section of the board and did not get the response I was looking for, so I will give it a shot here.
I dated a girl for 5 weeks. We decided things were not working. We literally went from never speaking to each other to talking everyday and seeing each other 4 times a week. We were set up by friends and felt as if we forced things, and moved way to fast. She also said she did not have feelings for me but she would do and say things (such as she liked me more than all the other guys she has dated, she saw us as more than dating, and she would not date any other guys) that lead me to believe otherwise. I think we just went about the relationship the wrong way and tried to force a romance way to fast, and that kind of split us up. I believe this is the reason why because she told me she has never had a serious relations ship and only dated guys for 1-2 months. Their might not have been strong feelings (it was only 5 weeks so how strong of feelings can you have) but I believe there were some feelings there. We had oral sex, what girl would do that to a guy she felt absolutely nothing for. Anyway we talked about this, I told her how I felt, and we decided to not talk for a month or so and then reconnect as friends since she said she had no romantic feelings towards me.
I am fully aware it’s a horrible idea to be friends with an ex, but she was never an ex we just dated for 5 weeks, the relationship never got that far. I will not be going into it trying to get her back or trying to force thing, that’s the mistake we made the first time around. However, I do know that feelings change, emotions change, and relationships grow. I feel like maybe by approaching things differently - not having expectations, not trying to force a romance or force anything, and just going with the flow, that’s when a romance can actually grow. I think changing the whole dynamic of our relationship can change a lot of things. I’m just looking for opinions on this. Have you heard of this happening before? Am I wrong for being somewhat hopeful that maybe some time down the road, maybe not in a few weeks maybe not even in a few months, but sometime there might be a romance between us? I feel like there was something between us, again it was only 5 weeks so I’m not going to lie and say it was a lot, but defiantly something, we just really screwed things up by forcing things and moving too fast.
Thanks for all your help