Need some advice

[burn3d]

First off i'd like to say Hi, im new to this forum.

Ok so here is my problem and im hoping you guys can give me some advice as to what i should do. So it starts a year ago, I was dating this girl for six years and we just started fighting all the time. We lived together and i decided to put some space between us and move out for awhile. This ended up goin well for a few weeks, we were talking and really trying to make it work. So one night i decided to come over to the place we shared unannounced. when i got there i found her in bed with another man. I went into shock and rage and ended up fighting the guy. She called the cops and i was arrested.

So after that i decided not to speak to her anymore and its been a year since we spoke. Until last week. She contacted me by email and i responded. We started talking again and she said she was very sorry for what had happened. It was like the third night of talking and she wanted to know if i wanted to meet up and i agreed. She came over to my place and one thing led into another and we hooked up. She came back the next night and it happened again. She tells me she still loves me and has all these feelings for me. You know the whole " i love being in your arms", " I missed you so much" kinda stuff. Then she tells me this, She has a new boyfriend.

I dont know what to think of this. I asked her if she was happy in her new relationship to see if her unhappiness was the reason for contacting me and all she will say is that she is "content". I dont know what to do. I asked her what she was hoping for by contacting me and she said she wants to see how things go between us before she makes any decisions. Does this make sense to anyone. I do still care for this girl but should i be putting myself in this situation. She told me last night that she was going out with her boyfriend and i must say that it hurt a little. Then she texts me while she is out with him to say and i quote "I just wanted to tell you that your on my mind". Is that not just a little weird. This whole situation has me screwed up.

So what do you guys think? Im open to all advice and opinions. Thanks for reading.

[QueenofCorona]

Forget her. She's dating another man, you are her fall back crutch. She's selfish and deceiving both you guys. Don't be her door mat anymore.

[burn3d]

Thank you for responding. I was thinking the same thing. I dont understand how she can be so cruel.

[misombra]

i think she's a total whore. except she's too stupid to charge.

[burn3d]

Part of me agrees with you misombra, and that part of me wants to treat her like one. Then there's the side of me that cares for her. It really sux.

[misombra]

well, it's the side of you that cares for her that she's going to tear up to a million pieces.

you know, i've seen guys get involved with bitches like this and they end up really bitter and then they think all women are total whores and treat us all that way. i've seen a lot of times. don't let that happen to you. you know there's other fish in the sea. throw this one to the birds.

[burn3d]

Your right she is already starting to break my heart again. I think im goin to take ur advice and let this one go before she breaks me down all the way. Thank you and dont worry i know all women arent the same and this one isnt goin to change my opinion of that.

[cmacattack1]

She cheated on you. She is currently cheating on her new boyfriend with you, and completely out of the blue tells you she still loves you after hooking up with you? She is just reeling you back in. It seems like a nice ego boost to want to be with you when she is with somebody else, but where has she shown she changed from the cheater you left a year ago?

She needs a reality check. I guess it's up to you how brutal you want to be.

[kisswithafist]

i think she's just confused, she dosent know who she wants so shes weighing up her options, is that such a problem?

but i dont think she should have told you thats what shes doing, but then she may have been worried she'd get caught anyway.

but im not saying you should go along with this, because you need to think of your own well being, i wouldnt go along with something like this, if someone dosent know if they want to be with you then their not worth your time.

[burn3d]

Thank you everyone for the advice. It seems like things are working out for the best without me having to go thru the goodbyes. I dont know if she has grown a conscious but she seems to be avoiding me now. I guess im just here for her amusement when no one else is around. I cant be that guy. So if she tries to contact me again im just going to avoid her. Thank you again everyone.