She Cheated.

[OutdoorGuy]

Well, I saw it coming. My female friend was in a relationship, her boyfriend wasn't treating her the way she needed him to, she spent a year or more desperately trying to fix the situation. It wasn't until she tried to dump him that he said he'd step up and take the relationship more seriously. He did a little better... but in the end.. it wasn't enough and she ended up cheating on him. And now the they've broken up.

I'd like to say right now, I'm really not impressed with the way things turned out. I really wish she had the courage to break up the first time and not put herself into this situation. She's really coming down hard on herself... really hard. Which, could be a good thing... but at the same time I can't help but hate seeing her so miserable. He's still sending her a whole bunch of hate mail, which gets to her worse. But, once again, I think that's to be expected.

I'm not sure what I wanted to hear from you readers. I think I just wanted to discuss this, cause I'm not use to the whole cheating world. She's not the type to be a cheater..quite the opposite. Lol, she told me she never wants to have sex again after this. She completely hates herself, and doesn't want to be with anybody for a very long time.
He's convinced she'll cheat on her men for the rest of her life. I really don't think she'll ever cheat again. He doesn't see how badly she's ripping herself apart. She's a girl who has extremely strong morals.

I don't know. Comments?

[girl68]

Tough shit. Sorry man. You're right it's good to see her so ripped up but she made the choice and these are the consequences. Luckily she can consider this a hard lesson learned but at least she learned right? Tell her it's her life if she chooses to never cheat again so be it. At least SOME good comes from it. Other than that all I have to say to her is "tough shit."

[Gigabitch]

She'd like to see herself as someone with very strong morals, but the simple fact is she cheated when she could have ended the unsatisfactory relationship. She should be judging herself this harshly. Now she knows what it's like to be the bad guy.

[OneQuestion]

Agreed. At least she IS in pain though... and she doesn't just not care at all. That shows she at least knows she is a stupid slut and isn't proud of it.

[girl68]

here you go with the stupid slut shit again.

FYI your gf is a stupid lying cheating slut too.

[OneQuestion]

Seems 99% of the world is... what can you do...

All that matters is she is faithful from this day forward... and she never 'cheated' on me, but I do suspect she had sex during our 1 month split.

It seems like you are just posting after any of my posts, trying to make me feel bad or critisize me? Please stop doing this, it is very immature...

[girl68]

Actaully I'm just stating what you seem to think of everyone else. Your gf IS a cheating slut. Don't matter if she didn't cheat on you. If the OP's friend is deemed a cheating slut even if she never does it again... so is your girl.

FYI I don't think the OP's friend is a cheating slut. She made a mistake and is paying for it. She is far from a slut. The above is your opinion.

[OneQuestion]

PP or other mod, please stop girl68 from harassing me... really... I haven't called her man any names, or her... I am starting to feel attacked rather than just in a conversation...

(Kind of like the mistake I made a few days earlier if you remember, however, I kindly fixed my error... She has been on the forum for some long time, I would expect her to know better...)

[Perryville]

ONe, you need to stop calling ANYBODY names. Your immaturity and lack of good manners isn't endearing you to the other posters. Perhaps, instead of "going off", and making huge moral assumptions, you should listen and learn? If you keep it up, you will find yourself banned .

[LailaK]

I have a really hard time understanding people who cheat. I think it's gross and the ultimate act of disrespect you can show someone you supposedly love. My best friend from college called me one night. She was a wreck. She'd cheated on her boyfriend with her ex. She was so torn up about it she was contemplating suicide. I didn't really know what to tell her. I was pretty grossed out that she would cheat. Still, she was my friend and I loved her so I went by the old adage "If you don't have something nice to say don't say anything at all". I told her it would be ok, not to do anything stupid and if she loved him to just focus all her energies on never doing it again. She asked me if she should tell him. I said that was up to her. I was worried that if he broke up with her she would have hurt herself. 3 years later she cheats on him regularly and has even slept with his best friend.

I feel partially responsible for this monster she has become. I should have told her the first time what I really thought instead of trying to spare her feelings. We're not friends anymore. I finally told her how stupid I thought she was (after the best friend thing) but it was years too late and she had already become comfortable with her behavior. She's now best friends with a woman who also cheats on her boyfriend and they egg each other on. I've never cheated and don't think I would and they've told me that I don't understand and won't until I'm in their shoes. Whatever. We no longer hang out. I can't stand their drama. They've even slept with the same guy. Gross.

Don't do what I did. Seeing your friend break down is hard but honestly is probably best. I should have been better friend and concentrated less on making her feel better and more on helping her understand that what she did was wrong.

[OutdoorGuy]

I must say, that is disgusting. How can people live like that??