Reread the part below again.
Originally Posted by
cmacattack1
I became distant from her. I had a serious of issues with myself (depression, low self esteem, you name it) and I didn't open up to her. She tried the hardest she could to keep things together and fight for us because that's how she was raised and how she believed love to be. I would always just throw some excuses at her (work is hard, long, difficult, boring) just to get her off my back. She made suggestions on how to make things work, just like you were, although giving me some space wasn't one of them (she was very dependent). I think that was what I needed though if I didn't communicate to her, how would she know? It's like you need to be out of the picture for them to appreciate you and want you back in it because they are so used to what you provide and take it for granted. It is also the sign of an immature relationship. If you work so hard towards something and they just don't care or give back the same effort, what are you working towards? It's a two person job and if you cannot possibly pick up the slack on her end. It's sinking and she's okay with it because you are keeping the boat afloat with everything you have.
I never wanted to cheat on my ex girlfriend and she knew that. However, if it continued going the way it had, I probably would have. It sounds like your girlfriend does have some issues on her end (as noted by years of therapy) but if she doesn't want to do anything about it, what can you do?
I hate to say I told you so.....no matter how strong she is, to continue on in this situation without any progress would lead to this happening.
As for all her groveling and her NOW wanting to do things immediately and as quickly as possible, doesn't that raise some red flags? Is this panic in her voice because she committed the cardinal sin of dating? Does she really want to do this because she feels for you or because she feels guilty and wants some reprieve? Is she losing her cushion?
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