Wife & another man fantasy - please help

[Mish]

It sounds like an after thought, not a genuine inclusion. If you were included she would have told you it was going to happen before it happened and she would have given you a choice for it not to happen if you didn't want it to.

She didn't give you any choice in the matter and she did it behind your back.

[Dogtoast]

Thats definitely good that she told you what happened so soon. I agree with whoever posted that you should be completely honest with her about you actually catching her in the act, and the range of emotions you felt when you were watching her. Good for you guys if you can have an open marriage.

I could not do that, maybe its because I'm young, and never been married.

Be honest with her though and you guys will figure out whats going to work out best in the future, I'd say its your turn to be with some random neighborhood chick!

[Junket]

Just thinking about something like that makes my blood boil.

It's like the ultimate betrayal.

Another man undermining my dominance.

The only way to reclaim dominance is to destroy him.

[misombra]

i think you're fantasizing that she was participating in your fantasy. i think she has fantasies of her own that don't involve you. don't kid yourself in thinking that because he's younger and less attractive that she's less attracted to him.

when people start bringing up these fantasies about getting another person in the mix it tends to make a woman think that one on one with her husband is not sufficient to him. a very big blow to a girls ego.

she told you and that's nice and all, but if this was living out your fantasy she would've told you before, i guarantee it. sometimes a girl just wants to get laid without hearing about the guys fantasy all the time. she probably enjoyed herself and trust me, it was not about you or to please you at all.

[Dogtoast]

i think you're fantasizing that she was participating in your fantasy. i think she has fantasies of her own that don't involve you. don't kid yourself in thinking that because he's younger and less attractive that she's less attracted to him.

when people start bringing up these fantasies about getting another person in the mix it tends to make a woman think that one on one with her husband is not sufficient to him. a very big blow to a girls ego.

she told you and that's nice and all, but if this was living out your fantasy she would've told you before, i guarantee it. sometimes a girl just wants to get laid without hearing about the guys fantasy all the time. she probably enjoyed herself and trust me, it was not about you or to please you at all.

yeah good point.....I doubt she was thinking " this sure will please my husband"

....thats if she thought about you at all. Not trying to be rough, we're just an unbiased third party offering opinions and thoughts on the matter, but man if i would have caught that going on....bad things would have happened.

[Incognito]

I'll refrain from being "too rough" here, but since this was your fantasy you deserve whatever the outcome. You stated that she was conservative and didn't want this to play out at first. You basically talked her into believing that your marriage isn't worth enough to keep sex between the two of you. If she leaves you for this younger, more energetic, more vigorous, more exciting guy.....you deserve it. If there are STDs involved you deserve it. You made the bed, now sleep in it.

I won't be following this thread any longer, it is sickening.

[Gigabitch]

I think she told you because she knew you saw them. Maybe she heard you close your door on the way out and saw you drive away. Again, if this had been something she did even in a small part to fulfill your fantasy, she would have told you about it ahead of the event. She ****ed another guy on your bed and you're trying to justify it.

[vashti]

I don't see what the problem is. You got your wish, and she got to fcuk a young guy. Sounds like a win/win to me.

[Doc Durian]

Just thinking about something like that makes my blood boil.

It's like the ultimate betrayal.

Another man undermining my dominance.

The only way to reclaim dominance is to destroy him.

She wasn't raped... it was consensual.

You could bury the guy in a shallow grave and it wouldn't change a thing. She welcomed him into her loins and sucked on his package, willingly.

You can't dominate your partner.. partnerships are equal. If she breaks the bond... you leave her to her own devices and move on... keeping your own domain and sanctity.

[ummconfused]

I know there has been a lot of negativity towards what i have tried to openly and honestly express here. i know for most, it is not normal. i know its probably hard to understand that a couple can still be in love and have another person join them in the bedroom. my wife arrived home thursday morning and we totally threw everything out in the open. we were honest about our feelings and we both agreed that we enjoyed what happened and understand that the physical contact with my wife and another man is just that, physical contact.

my wife talked to him on the phone yesterday afternoon (with me present), after we talked and explained to him our fantasy, our limits and what we expected from him. he came over last night and all 3 of us had a great time. i got to enjoy watching my wife being pleasured by him again and then also joined in as both us men pleasured her at the same time. waking up this morning, i could sense that me and my wife have never been closer or open with each other. it was if we were teenagers again and the "hello's" and "i love you's" have never been so sincere.

[MissAnn]

I am glad to hear it works for you!

This kind of thing is not for me, but I have friends who either swing or regularly participate in threesomes and they seem very happy.

I suspect that part of the reason some of guys on here are reacting with such hostility is because your fantasy involves another man and your wife. I wonder if it was with your hot 23 year old female neighbor if it would be more accepted?


Either way, good luck!

[Junket]

She wasn't raped... it was consensual.

You could bury the guy in a shallow grave and it wouldn't change a thing. She welcomed him into her loins and sucked on his package, willingly.

You can't dominate your partner.. partnerships are equal. If she breaks the bond... you leave her to her own devices and move on... keeping your own domain and sanctity.

Oh, I'd still leave her.

But my balls would require his blood to move on.

[Gribble]

Why do men get so uppity over a lousy ****hole?. I mean, there are billions more out there just waiting to be sown with your seed.

[davidtorres]

damn man,i only see this in the movie. i gotta say that you and your wife are crazy.

[Doc Durian]

Why do men get so uppity over a lousy ****hole?. I mean, there are billions more out there just waiting to be sown with your seed.

Some fellows have extremely delicate egos which bruise easily.