no more sex?!?

[c0nfused]

ive been on and off with my SO for a few years now. we just recently got engaged and things are good between us.
getting married next feb. ever since i can remember we've always been sexual with eachother, starting from the 1st date.

but he just recently told me that he had some type of 'spiritual awakening' and thinks we should wait until marriage to have sex again. of course this was out of left field to me, so i probed him for more info but he kept telling me that he wants to take a different path spiritually now and the only way things will improve in life is if he makes some sacrifices.

before this we had an active sex life, but he has had a problem with ED in the past 6 months, which i thought led up to this decision but hes admamant this isnt the issue.

i guess apart of me feels a little upset that this is being taken away from me, a natural part of our relationship that we've always had. i do love him and want to be supportive but is it wrong of me to feel upset about this?

its like i didnt get a choice in the matter and he was telling me to 'deal with it' in not so many words. being celibate until feb isnt exactly a walk in the park for me. ive always had a high libido and now im expected to live the life of a nun until feb.

im just not sure what to say or do with this info. we were planning a move together this summer but i can only imagine the frustration on my end sleeping next to him without being able to 'touch' him, moving now will probably be a dumb idea.

if anyone can give me some insight here, its much appreciated.

[Cady]

masturbate

[Junket]

I'm having deja vu.

Are you religious?

Like seriously religious, practicing religious, not "well I believe in something greater" bull$hit.

[c0nfused]

I'm having deja vu.

Are you religious?

Like seriously religious, practicing religious, not "well I believe in something greater" bull$hit.

im not religious at all. agnostic. he is orthodox, believes and prays etc but doesnt go to church.

[Junket]

im not religious at all. agnostic. he is orthodox, believes and prays etc but doesnt go to church.

I figured as much.

Time to sit down and really think about this.

Orthodox and agnostic...that's a hard sell.

I'm having a tough enough time as it is being from North and my g/f being from the South.

I don't have any answers for you besides you need to figure out what sex is worth to you. Sex is a key element to romantic relationships, anyone that denies this is an idiot.

I would definitely be reconsidering this marriage.

[c0nfused]

I figured as much.

Time to sit down and really think about this.

Orthodox and agnostic...that's a hard sell.

I'm having a tough enough time as it is being from North and my g/f being from the South.

I don't have any answers for you besides you need to figure out what sex is worth to you. Sex is a key element to romantic relationships, anyone that denies this is an idiot.

I would definitely be reconsidering this marriage.

in our whole relationship religion has never been brought up, no debates no conflict this is why im blind sided by this even more so. i personally think this has more to do with his erectile dyfunction, before this 'revelation' we have always been sexual. but yes it has given me some 2nd thoughts.

[asdfg789]

maybe he has an infection of some sort and just wants to wait for it to clear ?

[starbuck]

in our whole relationship religion has never been brought up, no debates no conflict this is why im blind sided by this even more so. i personally think this has more to do with his erectile dyfunction, before this 'revelation' we have always been sexual. but yes it has given me some 2nd thoughts.

You're probably right about it having something to do with his ED. Perhaps he is scared that if he continues to show a lack of performance, you won't marry him. It's a red flag. How many more random surprises will he spring on you in your marriage? And why doesn't his "spiritual awakening" involve going to church as well?

I think you should tell him the whole thing is giving you second thoughts.