How to Get Over an Ex-GF?

[RogerPodacter]

OK i seriously need help.

Its been 7 months now and i recently contacted my ex-gf because i was in a terrible depression by ignoring her emails and phone calls. So we met a few weeks ago and talked about stuff. We both were upset and cried. Since then we started talking alot and things were looking pretty good. We both agreed that we want to at least start seeing each other. She still has strong feelings for me and sometimes wants to come back to me but doesnt know how. The problem is the guy she is now with loves her to death, and she is in love with him. But she is confused because she doesnt love him as much as me and she really doesnt know what she wants.

One night last week she accidentally sent me an IM that was supposed to go to him. It crushed me because it was her telling him she loves him, good night, etc. So last week while she was working up in CT for 2 weeks i told her i wanted to come up after work one night and see her. I laid it all out on the table saying that if the things she has recently said are true, then i want to start seeing her because i want her back. The end result was that she said she just couldnt hurt this other guy. So thats it. She would rather not hurt him after 6 months over hurting me after 6 years.

I have not been well at all. She knows it and doesnt know what to do about it. AFter she said she couldnt start seeing me, i told her i have to block and erase her email and phone number. The problem is if i cut her out of my life completely then i will definitely get worse. The reason i contacted her in the recent weeks is because i was so bad mentally that i didnt even go into work for 2 days or call in sick.

I need to know how to get over this. Its been 7 months since we split and it is just getting worse. Last week was the happiest night in months for me. I stayed the night at her hotel room and we just layed in bed talking and crying and holding each other. She would let me leave until she fell asleep and i ended up spending the night (nothing happened of course). I was so insanely happy just being there next to her. It warmed my heart. As miserable as i have been, being there next to her made me happy 100 fold. But i now have to move on from her as i have no choice. That night i had to hear her talk to her new bf on the phone and tell her she loves him. It cut me like a razor.

I dont know what to do because i am in a tremendous amount of pain. I dont think i am normal. I feel weak and pathetic for being so heartbroken even 7 months later. Nothing is helping me get over this and i dont feel like i can go on anymore. I am miserably depressed. Anyway, just venting...

RP

[demode1204]

well roger i feel your pain and i know it sucks. in my early twenties i went thru some serious brake up much simular to what your going thru and i know it blows.to get her off my mind i was recomended by a profesional to pinch myself when i thought of her and my body would get acustomed to being subject to pain when i thought of her, It really helps. also try to be productive on your spare time keep your mind entertained play video games (play station,xbox etc..) you might also try to read a book or hang out with friends. girls can be wicked @ times and it sux to see how their heart can go in different directions... good luck!