Being anal about anal

[Kaius]

I told my woman that my best friend has anal with his wife regularly.
Unknowingly, I somehow accidentally implied that I wanted anal also, which isn't the case.
She had told me in the past that after we get married, she would offer me her "virgin butt", but she would not want anal all the time. I actually never intended to go there anyway because frankly, anal is not my thing.

So last night the discussion of my best friend came up again. She told me how degrading it is for women to take it in the rear just to please their man. I said, "well, based on your opinion, it looks like I'm not gonna get anal, which is fine."
Then she exploded and accused me of using guilt tactic to get the butt. I was like WTF??! I just made a statement, which was intended to let her know that I am okay with never going there. I explained that anal sex isn't really appealing to me, and if anything, I dont have much opinion about it.

This morning, she called me and told me that she is afraid down the line I may be unhappy with her. She feels a bit insecure that I'll always want anal sex, and she would give it to me only to make me happy, but deep down she doesnt want to. I was banging my head trying to convince her that I dont necessarily need to go there...and that I am super happy with how we make love right now. For some reason she still felt unsatisfied with my response.

I should have just kept my mouth shut cus it's getting worse. All this over anal sex. Damn!!!

[Gigabitch]

Oh, for God's sake.

First of all, it's degrading for women to do ANYTHING just to please their man. Nobody should take it up the backside unless they actually want to. She's unsatisfied with your answer because she's somehow convinced that she has to be the sexiest woman in the world or you won't love her and somehow that equates to being a freak in bed.

I know she rocks your world, but you might want to try expressing how much you enjoy her company even when her clothes are on. I'm sure you already do this, but you should turn up the volume because she's not hearing you. She's suffering from Beautiful Woman Syndrome (I just made that shit up). Beautiful women are often incredibly insecure. It comes from a lifetime of being valued for what you look like and not who you are.

Be patient with her. You know she's worth it.

[Kaius]

Oh, for God's sake.

First of all, it's degrading for women to do ANYTHING just to please their man. Nobody should take it up the backside unless they actually want to. She's unsatisfied with your answer because she's somehow convinced that she has to be the sexiest woman in the world or you won't love her and somehow that equates to being a freak in bed.

I know she rocks your world, but you might want to try expressing how much you enjoy her company even when her clothes are on. I'm sure you already do this, but you should turn up the volume because she's not hearing you. She's suffering from Beautiful Woman Syndrome (I just made that shit up). Beautiful women are often incredibly insecure. It comes from a lifetime of being valued for what you look like and not who you are.

Be patient with her. You know she's worth it.

Thanks Giga. I think she was feeling insecure. I spent a good portion of today talking to her and soothing her mind. She admitted that she was worried that I might lose interest in her if she refused giving it to me regularly. That's just crazy talk. We have known each other 6 months now. We are serious to the point where we are planning a good time for our kids to meet. I am so in love with this woman....I am willing to die for her. Honestly. I told her even if she never let me touch her, I'd still love her the same. I then asked, "would you have such insecurity if I wanted to pee on you regularly?" We both laughed and everything is good now.

[Junket]

I miss anal.

It's been forever.

[BubbleFreak]

I then asked, "would you have such insecurity if I wanted to pee on you regularly?" We both laughed and everything is good now.

Uh oh now you're saying you want to pee on her while doing anal all at the same time? o_O haha just messing

[Petit Papillon]

Thanks Giga. I think she was feeling insecure. I spent a good portion of today talking to her and soothing her mind. She admitted that she was worried that I might lose interest in her if she refused giving it to me regularly. That's just crazy talk. We have known each other 6 months now. We are serious to the point where we are planning a good time for our kids to meet. I am so in love with this woman....I am willing to die for her. Honestly. I told her even if she never let me touch her, I'd still love her the same. I then asked, "would you have such insecurity if I wanted to pee on you regularly?" We both laughed and everything is good now.

I think it's great the way you solved this problem. I think turning it all into a joke was a good idea. If I were her, I would be convinced after that , that you seriously don't care about her doing anal with you. Good job

[Gigabitch]

You're a good boyfriend, Kaius.

[dono01]

Good man. Glad it all worked out.

I don't really know what the rave is about anal. I think it's more of a mental dominance thing for those males who feel they need to think like that.

Really, i could take it or leave it.

[Gigabitch]

I don't really know what the rave is about anal. I think it's more of a mental dominance thing for those males who feel they need to think like that.

Really, i could take it or leave it.

I think quite a few guys get to that point. It's a curiosity and then when they know what it is and that they can have it, they actually prefer the vag anyway.