where to look. I ask myself If being with someone is worth it.

[X-tricker]

My thoughts on my life actually bring me here to this forum. I'll be honest with myself. I live by myself, I cook, clean, and work for myself, putting sometimes too much work on me, but this isn't why I am looking for a relationship. I like fun with no drama at all, but some people put their values first, so there is always problems.

for example: I have this one friend who is happy with this girl, but she has serious drama issues. They fight once a day, she is going through a court meeting, and she chooses to yell at him, and fight, he sits there and takes it most of the time, where some of the time they fight. I never understand those types of relationships.

I don't want to be with someone that is always going to spaz all the time. I don't like spazzers. The problem is when people are attached to their own ego, they only care about themselves at that point of a relationship. I want to be with someone I can get a long with just fine.

but yet, I hear there will always be problems in relationships because of misunderstanding and misinterpretation, but I need to ask myself is it worth bonding with someone for sex/relationship/and maybe some help around my place by getting the worst drama being put into my head everyday?

Some people fight all the time, yet they can't be even a few months away from each other, and they know they are only putting more pressure and stress on themselves, and nothing changes. I just don't get it.

[VincenzoG91]

In theory, the dating process could be used to really get to know a potential partner, to screen out the bad ones. But emotions can interfere with perceptions, and some people are in such a hurry to to become intimate, both physically and otherwise.

[mama1014]

I totally agree with Vincenzo. If we take our time to really get to know someone and they take the time to get to know us, then and only then should you move to the next level. I have just recently experienced what can happen when you move too quickly to mesh your lives together.

That said, as you grow older, it is comforting to have a partner you know that you can rely on as long as you have built a strong relationship of respect and harmony.