Ok Im in need of some advice...
Just as all other normal couples, me and my girlfriend have come across some stumbling blocks along the way in our relationship. Sometimes silly...sometimes much more serious. Nonetheless the situation usually results in the same manner. I am an engineer and am born to fix things. I dont like to leave something alone until I have learned what went right/wrong and how things can be better next time. However my girlfriend often gets scared and just wants to remain quiet. She gives me the "Im fine" and says she will be better in the morning. I know when Im being BSed haha. I know that girl too well and when she is upset it makes me upset. She makes me happy and I want to make her happy. So when she is upset, no matter what the cause, it makes me upset. I love that girl more than anything and cant stand to see her upset.
Heres where the problem comes in. Often I try to console her and try to come up with a solution to whatever the problem may be, but instead of letting me help her she just says shes fine and that shes not upset and that everything will be ok. I dont understand why she doesnt want my help. I try my best to stay calm and be patient but I wind up getting upset myself because I just want to help her and maker her happy and all her troubles go away.
So here what I need...is there a different way I can try to help her that may be more affective? Or is it that I just need to give her the space and let be alone and sad all by herself even though it kills me inside? And if so, how can I better cope with that?Because I am sitting here all upset, not because I did anything wrong to her, but because someone else made her upset and she is still upset and doesnt want me to help her and make her feel better.
Sorry for being so longwinded and thanks for your comments
Regards,
floridaguy