Should you tell your friend about her cheating husband?

[Sonrisa]

It doesn't matter. Here's where you should lay off. Son has clearly stated she'd much rather live in a sense with a lie and still be happy instead of the alternative. That is her perogative.

We would rather not but each of us is allowed to want different things. Don't go trying to influence her to want to know if she's being cheated.

I believe that happiness is energy, if my energy is affected by anything negative then i emit negative energy. Which is not beneficial for me or anyone around me. Basically I have a philosophy that if there's nothing positive to say, please keep it to yourself. Of course I do listen to my friends complain. And only rarely I allow myself to vent or blow up.

[xxazurexx]

ruth didn't mention anything about the wife being suspect, so as far as we all know, the wife doesn't know. she should tell her what she heard. if the wife doesn't want to do anything about it, that's her choice, but at least ruth acted as a loyal friend and made her aware of what the mistress told her...

if the wife knows, then she knows...it's no hair off ruth's back

OK, well I was only saying.....!!!!

Indeed she may not know, but then she may and not feel a need to be sharing her innermost thoughts and fears with her friend.

I know that when it was happening to me, the last thing I did was rush around informing all of my friends that I thought my husband was cheating. I kept it to myself. Yeah...I know not everyone is like me.

While we can be aware our partners may be cheating, we are also at same time in denial that would ever cheat on us and we tend to brush these things aside and to the back of our minds. We tend to think we are imagining it all....

But yeah, she might suspect, she may not.....nobody knows for sure, only Ruth. And whether people here would choose to tell her or not, rests with the individual and their reasons/concerns for telling her/not telling her.

[qwertz]

I told my best friend when i found out his wife was cheating. At first i wasnt sure, but decided that he needed to know and make his own choices. There was no way i would not tell a friend just at the risk of falling out over it. I think it should be the same for man or woman, kids or no kids- your friend needs to know to make her own decision on what she will do.

[Sonrisa]

is there even a Ruth?

[xxazurexx]

unless she has the intelligence of a turnip, she probably knows. Women generally know when the marry a snake.

exactly!!!...

[xxazurexx]

is there even a Ruth?

God knows....I saw a Ruth mentioned and just assumed there was a Ruth....lol

[Sonrisa]

God knows....I saw a Ruth mentioned and just assumed there was a Ruth....lol

i mean someone who posts something, and never makes a reappearance.

[xxazurexx]

i mean someone who posts something, and never makes a reappearance.

I was thinking exact same and when I was reading earlier.

They make these threads, but never return for the advice....I wonder why that is?

[Sonrisa]

I was thinking exact same and when I was reading earlier.

They make these threads, but never return for the advice....I wonder why that is?

trolls, could be one of the banned

[Sonrisa]

I would like to nominate Coco for Queen of the Banned (reference Queen of the Damned)

Coco and Neo for the Banned and the Beautiful

[RdHrshyKss]

still doesn't give a reason to NOT tell her. like i said, if she knows, then she knows...if ruth chooses to think "oh well she probably already knows" when she doesn't, then she is doing her friend a disservice.

[RdHrshyKss]

the person who posted this thread is "ruthpurple" so i've been referring to her as ruth...

[xxazurexx]

still doesn't give a reason to NOT tell her. like i said, if she knows, then she knows...if ruth chooses to think "oh well she probably already knows" when she doesn't, then she is doing her friend a disservice.

Yeah well I explained my reasons for not telling.....and having born the brunt of the consequences and in choosing to reveal all....

Fat lot of good it did me eh?...uhm lol

[xxazurexx]

the person who posted this thread is "ruthpurple" so i've been referring to her as ruth...

They never seem to come back though. I've noticed that a few times on here where people will post, a storm brews because it's a subject where people will agree and disagree and opinion clashes strongly....and the OP never returns. Bit odd don't you think?

[Sonrisa]

the person who posted this thread is "ruthpurple" so i've been referring to her as ruth...

no sense of humor, huh?