I'll cover all the other comments in one big post here:
"She sounds like a head case, if things did happen just as you say." - We each have our problems, as you are all aware.
"Walkingdream, you've clearly driven your girlfriend around the bend. May I ask what the point is of giving someone your password and access to your computer history when you cover your tracks? That's just plain weird. It's kind of backhanded." - I have 0 privacy, if I want to, for instance, come and post to this thread I need the privacy to do so. Personal privacy- there needs to be some in a relationship, I'm sure you will agree.
"This is what Vashti was talking about, way at the beginning of the thread. I agree with her. An ex drug addict has NO business drinking." - I'm going through the stages to completely remove myself from prescribed drugs. I can't imagine a world that I can't have a pint in after a hard day at work. I think even an ex-hard drug addict can learn to moderate regarding alcohol. I may not share conventional opinions but it doesn't make me wrong. Every person has individual goals and each situation is unique to that person. I imagine your immediate response is "then you haven't accepted that you are a drug addict." - I think every Doctor who is aware of my previous habits and completely aware that I do drink, as I report to them bi-monthly and share how much alcohol I intake, would disagree with you. Maybe drinking is considered more lax here in the UK though even the doctors I had in the States were aware and they've never mentioned that I should cut down or quit.
"Actually, this looks pretty bad if you're a guy who doesn't **** his girlfriend. I can see why she's pissed off about it. I would be." - I never claimed she had no foundation on which to be upset.
"Rookie??? i was very eager to use a couple of other words but I am so extremely proud of myself for being able to control myself and not abusing newbies. otherwise...has he shown up here only a month ago..." - My join date was yesterday. This was my first forum post. Mocking people who come and look for insight seems like a poor way to handle things to me. At no point have I claimed I am right or without flaws.
Any other comments I missed and you would like a response to let me know.
I stopped responding at that point because she came downstairs and we started to talk.
Last edited by walkingdream; 20-05-10 at 07:37 PM. Reason: clarification
Spoken just like an addict! Trust me on this: I work with doctors every day. They aren't going to tell you the obvious. They don't mention the alcohol because you are taking so much other crap, they have no immediate hope for you being clean, though perhaps they hope to move you in that direction by weaning you down. Also, just because a doctor writes you an order doesn't mean you aren't a junkie. If you TRULY want to be clean, you won't take anything. Including alcohol.
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?
I think it would be very useful if your girlfriend were to post on here as well.
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This one is a little situation dependant. But also emotional for me. I actually struggle severely because my boyfriend looks up other women (or used to). I never did this myself, I admire celebrities by their looks, but I am incapable of being attracted to others while I'm in love.
Either way.. I guess it all comes down to who can make a sacrifice for the cheapest cost. Atleast imo. Atleast if you both agree and see each other's point of view.