Interesting girl

[boobaa]

Hello. Long tiome no see, I notice the forum appearance has changed, but some of the regulars are still here. Remember me, that miserable **** who always whined? Well I am back for the moment.

I met this girl last Saturday. She ran after me, gave me a kiss. Now we are writing and have seen each other once... Only once because we are very buzy with school, exams and stuff. That, and the fact she has a bf who she lives with, so it all has to be in secret and stuff. I don't excpect this to work out at all. In fact, she is going away at the end of next week for whole summer. And she probably just needed space from her bf.

Thing is, as we talked, I got the impression she is the only girl who kind of understands me. If it wasn't fake (to keep me around). We are likeminded and I actually like her, not just the outside, but her way of thinking. Not like my ex.

So, how to keep her interested? I have asked her out again, but it is complicated since we only write e-mails and timing kind of sucks. You have to wait for a reply. And we actually don't have much time to go out. She is going abroad, leaving her bf behind for a while. I reckon she is probably going to get drunk there and maybe do something stupid, but after a while I am 100% sure she gets remorse and actually starts to miss her bf, who she has currently no feelings for.

It may sound mean to some people, especially to her bf, but: How to keep her around/interested?

[xxazurexx]

I don't buy that she has no feelings for him. She wouldn't live with him and if she had no feelings.
Not like they are married or have any kids, that may keep them in this relationship - she is free to leave it at anytime she pleases.

My guess is, is that perhaps she isn't getting enough attention from her boyfriend and so she will lap up the attention of other men.

Why don't you go and ask her bf, what it took to keep her around and interested

[boobaa]

Haha, was that irony? Well, asking her bf would definately clear up many things, but considering the situation, I doubt it would be good idea, lol.

Yes, I should just probably forget this girl, but I actually want to win her over. Is being ambitious a bad thing? I lack ambition in many things, but this, I actually want to happen

[xxazurexx]

^^lol...perhaps not ask him then

I dunno hon, I have never gone for what I percieve to be the 'unattainable'...particularly if the unattainable comes in the form of a man in a relationship.
I will only get involved with men I know to be 'free and single' and so I have never found myself in these kinds of situation, whereby I feel I have to compete with another person and to win over someones love. It's 'black and white' for me - you want me or you don't, no 'inbetween'.

Thing is, in a weeks time you won't see her anymore anyway. That isn't a lot of time in which to try to win someone over. Do you want to wait around until autumn to see if something might happen and with a girl you hardly know and who has a bf?

[boobaa]

It mens what does one mean with "waiting". We are not a couple and have not agreed on anything so this would mean I can do whatever I please. Considering her situation, fair deal. But I definately will wait for autumn, lol. We probably exchange e-mails in summer, if I am not going to visit her.

[misombra]

i don't know about this one. i doubt this situation will turn in your favor and it'll probably make you even more bitter. girls rarely leave their boyfriends for other guys. and if she does, well she'd do the same to you.

my advice is to stay away.

sorry, doubt that's what you wanted to hear.

[vashti]

If she isn't happy with her boyfriend, you won't have to do much to maintain her interest. I don't think your biggest competition is him, to be honest... it is going to be the distance. How long will she be gone?

[VincenzoG91]

Relationships that start with cheating often end the same way.

[boobaa]

Everything ends one day. Probably even this one. Today we had an awesome date, but it might be last one, who knows. Depends how much free time we have with the exams and all. I told her what I think about it and how I think she is going to feel in England, that she will probably meet new people and after a while feel a remorse and will miss his current bf. But she kept talking about how she will send me stuff and how we write and suddenly realize summer is over and she is back. So I guess I'll just have to wait and see. She is the kind of person with whom you can sit silent for like an hour, then say something and realize we thought exactly the same thing. Kind of amazing. Oh, and there is no sex, and I don't even feel like this is neccesary at this point, unlike like with my ex, where sex was the reason why whole relationship started. This thread is kind of pointless anyway, I don't really know why I did it. Its kind of me to vent about everything in forums.