Not getting enough from him.

[briggers]

Hello fellas,

Hope your all ok. This is my first time on here so be gentle he he.

Well the problem is that my fiancee seems to have gone off sex.

We have been together for over 2 years.

He says its because he doesnt get enough exercise and that he is tired etc etc, but i just dont believe him. He is the best ive ever had, well tbh he is the only guy i have ever actaully lusted over like i do him. We are totally in love, but everytime i try tio inniciate he says no. The feeling of rejection is very harsh and he says he doesnt mean it like that. I have had chats with him about it and he says he will try harder but it just doesnt happen. Its getting so bad that im thinking of getting a lover just for sex. I have told him i feel this way. I have stopped asking now as it just really hurts when he says no and i know its not a phase as its been going on a while. I think horrible thoughts about it all the time, is he cheating, doesnt he fancy me, does he think im fat, is he only with me until something better comes along? All these insecure feelings also come from my depression, so i cant just go with my gut feeling as i know its probably wrong.

Can any of you shed any light on this for me, please?

ps i do not want to split up over this but its seems it may end up breaking us!!!

xxx

[xxazurexx]

If you have only been together 2 years, imagine in 5, 10, or 15 years...

BTW, there are 1000 threads with the very same dilemma.

[Gigabitch]

Its getting so bad that im thinking of getting a lover just for sex.

Don't do that.

Tell him you want to see a counselor or someone about this or the engagement's off. Put your foot down about it. Stop going down a shame spiral and blaming yourself; that's not helping.

[briggers]

Don't do that.

Stop going down a shame spiral and blaming yourself; that's not helping.

Id never thought of it like this. Thankyou xxx