What do I do?

[Magnum26]

Hi All.

I'm 25 and have been with my girlfriend for coming up to 7 years, we have been living together for 2. When we first started going out, the first 6-8 months we were sexually active, sometimes two times a day. Then after about a year this slowly decreased and decreased and decreased and now 6 and a bit years down the road, we have had sex once in about 3 years. If I try and get things spiced up in the bedroom, she says no or I'm tired. If I ask her if it's me, and if she still loves me, finds me attractive she says yes. She is on the pill and we always used a condom, so there is very little if not no chance of pregnancy. We still hug and kiss and she tells me she loves me every so often, but I am lucky if I am allowed to even touch her once a monthand sex is deffinetly out of the question.

My second issue is that a girl in work, that I use to notice looking at me, has started talking to me. We have been going out for lunch together for the last few days now, and she flirts with me. She is fairly open in telling me that she likes me, and I like her too.

I love my gf, as we have been together for a long time, but I also think I am falling for the girl in work.

[sunnybunny8212]

are you falling for the girl at work because you like her,and have feelings for her, or because you haven't had any sex in a while?
i say approach your gf about the situation, and tell her what you need. Thats a looong time to have no intimacy, and id feel the same way....
i suggest you work things out with your gf before doing anything with anyone else. if you love each other, you'd get through this and come to something that would do you both great.... im sure you guys can work it out. shes being selfish, and thats no fair...

<3

[Gigabitch]

This is a huge problem, and it's not normal. Yes, sex can taper off after you've been together for years, but this is ridiculous. You're trapped in a sexless relationship.

Don't even think about the girl from work (I know; it's hard- literally). That will only complicate matters. You have to focus on your relationship with your girlfriend right now and come to a mutual decision about staying together or splitting up. In my opinion, if she just isn't interested in having sex with you at all, your relationship has devolved into some kind of companionable friendship.

[xxazurexx]

I think that women like this, don't deserve to have a guy to be honest and I'm unsure why guys will continue to stick around in these kind of situations. Especially when there are thousands more 'red, hot blooded' females out there!!
All I can say, is that they must be frightened to death they aren't going to find another woman/relationship. But when another woman comes along, which has happened here, who can blame him for turning his attentions towards her? After all, what exactly is his partner offering but companionship.

Surely his partner must be home and thinking that her guy is not happy in this situation, yet she does little to resolve it and because she will feel secure after several years with this guy, assumes she is 'safe'' with this guy and the last thing he would do is look at another woman.....or so she thinks.

I don't advocate cheating and would never advise anyone to cheat. But in situations like this, why not just get the hell out of it and if you have tried to make it work and it's failed time after time. People can only go on trying so many times, but it takes 'two' to bring about a change and make it work.