I'm not totally sure this is the correct forum, I haven't broken up with my girlfriend as of now but I think it might be the only option
My gf and I have known each other since middle school. We were always friends but not really close, after high school I didn't see or talk to her for about 6 years. We randomly met at a bowling alley back in May 2009 and hit it off. We actually had sex that night too which was probably a sign of bad things to come....
Well for the past years things have gone seemingly fine. We've had a few stupid fights but nothing major. Well a few days ago I was on what I thought was my facebook page, but she had left herself logged in. I was looking for an old message in my inbox and realized I was in her inbox. I should have stopped right there but I got curious and looked at a few of her messages. There wasn't anything out of the ordinary until I found something from October 2009 between her and a guy. I'll paraphrase it below:
Her - Hey, do you have a brother, I was in a Verizon store and saw a guy that looked just like you.
Him - Nope, did you tell him he looked like a guy you used to ****
Her - Haha, no, maybe we can make that happen again sooner than later, my bf and I are on the rocks
Needless to say I felt like throwing up after reading that. Now I don't care what she did before she met me but obviously this is cause for concern. I confronted her about it and she admitted that she had sent the guy a message but had stopped there. She said she was angry at me during one of our little fights and thats why she had done it, but she never acted on it. I understand people say things they regret when they're angry but I can't convince myself in my head that this isn't a big deal. She said she had hooked up with the guy a few times when she was drunk.
Up until this week I was planning on marrying this girl, now our relationship is forever changed. I regret reading something of hers that was personal but it's done and I can't go back.
Is there a way I can salvage this?