I have this friend who I went to school with from the time I was in 6th grade. He dated a friend of mine in high school (I've lost touch with her though). I'm now 22, and he's 24. We've never been overly close, but we've always kept in touch with each other. Until recently we'd never really hung out outside of school. Most of our contact was through MySpace or MSN messenger over the last 4 years. We'd have spurts of messages while we caught up on our lives with each other, but then we wouldn't talk again for a few months combined with the occasional running into each other in our hometown.
So a few months ago he messaged me out of nowhere telling me "I thought about you the other day, and thought I'd better message you before you forget all about me.". We've been talking via text since. Every day actually. He hits on me a lot, comes to see me at the park I hang out in before work (I don't have a car, so I have people drop me off there around their schedule because it's near my job), and comes to my job just to give me hugs when I'm having a bad day. Because of this I asked him what he was looking for. He said, "Would you hate me if I just wanted to be friends with benefits?" I'm not against casual sex, but I've never had a boyfriend because of a friend w/benefits that lasted over 4 years that I ended up having feelings for. I explained to him that I was really looking for a relationship, and he said "I understand. I'd hate to lose our friendship over a few orgasms.".
What I need help with is that he's still doing all of the stuff that made me ask him what he wanted in the first place. In fact he just sent a message where he called me babe and regularly calls me baby. Is he just being a natural flirt? Does he think if he hangs around I'll put out without a commitment later? Does anyone think that maybe he has changed his mind? I'm so confused!