When I was 21, I was the first guy in my group of friends to have my own apartment. I wasn't done with college yet, but my dad got a new job in another state, and I didn't feel like moving with them and living in a small town. So it was sometimes tough to make ends meet, but I got my own studio apartment. It was just one room, 15 feet by 15 feet, with a small kitchen and a bathroom attached, plus a couple of closets. All my friends were still living at home, so when they wanted to party without disturbing their parents, they came over to my place.
By age 25, I'd had enough. At that time, I was living with two close friends as roommates, and we had a nice apartment with three bedrooms, two bathrooms and a big living room. Friends came over seven days a week to hang out, bringing bags of fast food and snacks and drinks for themselves. We had to take out the trash and recycling every single day because it was filling up that quickly. And even though two of us roommates had standard office-type jobs, M-F, 8-5, our friends were often staying until 2:00 AM, even on weeknights. So two of us finally said enough, and told our friends they had to leave before midnight on weeknights. And when that first year ended, we didn't renew the lease, the two of us got a different apartment elsewhere, and laid down stricter rules about how often people could come over. The third roommate got a place with his girlfriend, and they never had anybody over because she wouldn't allow it.
So I understand the issue here. You need to talk to your girlfriend and come up with a compromise. If both of you are reasonable, you should be able to work something out. If she won't compromise, you might want to take a hard look at the overall relationship, because if there are other similar issues, you two just might not belong together. It doesn't make either of you bad people, just two people who won't be happy together in the long run.
Last edited by VincenzoG91; 08-06-10 at 02:38 AM.
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