First of all i'm a 27 year old male (although if you ask me i am not 27, i feel much younger) , i've been out of the whole dating thing for well.....two years, my relationship ended, lost my job , and got into a small depression as well, but i am out of it. I am as happy as can be and enjoying life bigtime!!!!!! Even though i dont have a job yet....all in due time.
I will try to make this a short as possible.
Last week i did some voluntary work for a week at a place where they take care of homeless people, making sandwhiches,coffee/tea for them and simply chatting with them. I met a very nice lady there, we spoke a bit and that was it. I decided i wanted to ask her out, but i did not see her anymore, and i was gonna work there for only one week. So i asked her out by writing a note and putting it in a enveloppe. Sunday night i received a text message and she said the note was very nice. But she didnt know yet what to do with it, cause she was taking things easy lately, but she said she was gonna get back to me on that.
The next morning i sent her a message saying i respect that, and that the note probably came as a surprise. But she replied back that she doesnt mind this and likes surprises. She then asked lots of things about how my voluntary work week was, and several text messages went back and forth. Pretty soon she gave me her MSN. All week since monday, we send one or two text messages per day and every evening we have nice conversations on MSN. She told me things that could be considered private, (not nessecarily about her) but things that you expect to hear only when you are a longtime friend, so she trusts me,that is obvious and its of course very good.
But for some reason we have not yet talked about personal interests, and personally i find that nothing for MSN. I much rather go for a walk, talk alittle, and that way getting to know eachother more. Basically what i am trying to find out is does she simply want to be friends and thats it, or could there be more? I have definitely alot of interest in getting to know her better and hoping for more than friendship. I do not know if her giving her MSN and talking about certain things (what i said earlier) is a indication that she is also interested in more. Friends have told me 'dude just ask her out again. She knows you by now, you saw eachother, talked quite alot already, if she is digging you, she will love to go out.
But then i am like .she said she was gonna get back to me on that. But maybe she never will and is indeed waiting for a second invite..which i dont have any problem with doing, Cause there is nothing wrong with it, all i am showing is to her that i really like her and want more than friendship, or at least see where it might bring us, you know.
I have decided to wait till next week or sometime in this weekend, then i'll send her a message. This weekend i have all kinds of things to do anyway, and on sunday evening she has the voluntary work again. Plus, i personally think it's good to at least have waited a full week before asking her again. I said i respected what she said...and that she was gonna get back to me on that, maybe she will, maybe not. But i'll wait though.
But i like to make a message that aint the standard 'Wanna go out etc' it should be something unusual, original. And i am really thinking about a very nice place to go to with her or take her to. But i don�t know yet what place that is. Any ideas/help?
And no doubt its practically impossible to know, but what do people in here think, what is your first impression after reading all this about the lady? Is she interested in me or will it probably stay simply friendship only?