She said she loves me, now she avoids me =(

[praizthinkr]

A few weeks ago I met a girl at a barbecue, she lives in Los Angeles and I live in the Midwest US (though I am originally from LA and was there to visit). I am in the Midwest for school and come back to visit.

I met this girl the day before I returned to the Midwest, and we had a good talk and got her number.

It sucks that I am not in town to take her on a date. But we have been video chatting online and things happened really fast. She was very teasing, and flirting with me first, instead of me flirting first. A few days ago the conversation turned sexual and we did some sexual things... toward the end of the conversation, she asked me why I have trouble saying I love someone. So I did say I loved her a few minutes later, and she said she loved me.

She called me again the next day for a brief chat and that's all I heard from her. That was this past Wednesday.

Since then I have not heard from her though I tried contacting her about 4 times. I know she goes on Facebook because of her status updates, but she didn't respond to my IM.

I also heard from a reliable friend that she broke up with someone a few weeks ago and that I might have been her rebound.

I probably messed up by letting things escalate too soon, but I got caught up in the moment.

Those who know me well know that that I am quite luckless with women, so just moving on and finding someone else isn't an easy option for me. When I first told her I love her I was hesitant, but since then my heart started pouring out and now I've fallen for her. It's been 4 days and it hurts that she is not loving me back. I feel really hurt.

Is she just using me? Should I keep pursuing or give up?

[Cloud206]

Give up,find someone closer to you.

[Atokad]

I gotta tell you that all of this is very sudden, and really early....it's just been a couple of weeks, sadly this is not enough to develop a strong romantic bound yet.
I understand you probably fell in love with her and want something more.
But the way she is acting seems to indicate that she indeed might just have used you, you have to keep this in mind as painful as it might sound, it will help you to assimilate things better in a worse case scenario.

Now if you are able to stablish contact her it would be the best to set things up with her and ask her if she wants to give you a chance...it's the best thing to do. I'd say you shouldn't give up just yet...but be ready for anything ok? n_n

I hope everything turns out well for you