Girlfriend vs Friends

[therealjag]

hey man, yeah i sent the message on friday but the reply she sent was that she kept saying "You'll find out soon" i dont have a clue about what she means by saying that but supposedly its to do with sooner or later i'll find out how much i've hurt her and i'll be very very sorry and feel very guilty for what i've done...i dunno, just sounds like a cop out to me and she was too scared to answer it cos she doesnt want me to leave her.

and btw for the record, i did go out saturday and watched the footie, was amazin, especially since england drew and the howler from their goalkeeper was very amusing! andi went out drinking too which was a good laugh cos its been a while since i've been really drunk!

me and my bros were just chanting "USA! USA!" was good being American for the day!

[NBT]

What exactly did you write to her?

Also, do you feel that you've hurt her the way she says?

[therealjag]

hey man,

yeah well i wrote to her the exact message you said above, except removing those long list of girls names in the message . but her reply is strange as it doesnt really answer my question so i might actually talk to her about it tonight to see if i can get a better idea of what shes on about.

and yeah well i feel i have hurt her in the way she has said but at this moment in time i'm feeling quite selfish about the whole thing so im not feeling that guilty about it...mainly because she doesnt ever look past her own pain and what she does to others through her actions including people in her family and of course me....

like even yesterday she was crying because we didnt talk much or talk properly cos it was our 14 month anniversary, but im like c'mon 14 month anniversary - its not like we're kids that we celebrate that kind of thing, yeah in the first year you could do it every month but after a year it should be yearly, not monthly!

[NBT]

So she basically ignored the point we made in the message you sent, and told you to be prepared to feel guilty soon.

Yeah man. This chick is off her rocker.

HOWEVER, at the SAME time, you're not exactly being very sensitive to her feelings EITHER.

I mean it's OBVIOUS that you CARE, at least on SOME level, or you wouldn't even be CONCERNED about what this "big thing" is that she's planning. NOR would you be staying WITH her. So she DOES MATTER to you SOMEWHAT. You just don't care as much as SHE does.

Listen. I get the fact that 14 months isn't a big deal to you / us men, but to HER, it WAS.

So if you DO care about her, try and consider her feelings more from now on.

If you DON'T care, then just be done. But it's not fair to really "half ass it", like you're doing now.

Hell, surprise her with a text message that says "I love you, just wanted you to know."

Shit like that might mean the world to her. You know?

[hello1]

and btw for the record, i did go out saturday and watched the footie, was amazin, especially since england drew and the howler from their goalkeeper was very amusing! andi went out drinking too which was a good laugh cos its been a while since i've been really drunk!

me and my bros were just chanting "USA! USA!" was good being American for the day!

Why is it the Scots hate the English? When we support their team if our own does not get through. Very sad. But hey Scotland never have a chance of lifting any cup!

[therealjag]

Why is it the Scots hate the English? When we support their team if our own does not get through. Very sad. But hey Scotland never have a chance of lifting any cup!

Well theres a lot of history behind that but personally I aint too fussed. Actually during the game, because I'm in Preston anyway I actually couldnt help but spurr the English on...i did genuinely want them to win but the fact that they didnt and the reasons behind them drawing was amusing...

theres quite a bit of inferiority complex behind the whole thing too but i think its good anyway to have a bit of rivalry, keeps things interesting and creates a bit more excitement and banter!

[therealjag]

So she basically ignored the point we made in the message you sent, and told you to be prepared to feel guilty soon.

Yeah man from what she said i think that was pretty much her reply. so as a result of that shes completely ignored what i said and as usual completely ignored the issue i have with her which is why i'm angry in the first place. but tbh it aint gona make me feel guilty, it'll just make me feel more vexed up.

So if you DO care about her, try and consider her feelings more from now on.

If you DON'T care, then just be done. But it's not fair to really "half ass it", like you're doing now.

Yeah i totally get what you're saying, i've been half assing it for almost 8 months now but then when i decide i want to break it off, her suicide attempts and all that stuff just ends up drawing me back in which i hate myself for in a way. I duno , i know there aint much to go anyway, and i've already told her theres no garuntee that i'll be moving back up so when that is confirmed it'll pretty much seal it...:S

[xxazurexx]

Why is it the Scots hate the English? When we support their team if our own does not get through. Very sad. But hey Scotland never have a chance of lifting any cup!

LOL....They 'lurrrve' to hate us. All to do with history I figure. Still holding grudges after centuries have passed....'tut, tut, tut'

Plus they may be pissed they didn't qualify...or did they? I have no interest in football at all and England for sure won't win. They are hopeless, lol.