I think I have an unusual situation here...
I met my girlfriend three years ago and was living with her for 2 years and we split up almost two months ago. She is from South America and I'm from the USA. I only mention that because I think I might be dealing with some cultural issues here.
I didn't want to split up with her and she didn't want to split up with me. We were both passionately in love with each other the day I moved out and of course I still love her. I moved out because of her hideous 17 year old son that did things like flip me off and call his mom a "f-ing b" etc. He was this way because his mom enabled him to be this way by not making him accountable for his actions. The kid has been involved in stealing from Walmart, selling weed out of the house, selling stolen bottles of booze out of the house, selling stolen t-shirst out of the house, etc. The disrespect issue wasn't just with me and his mother but was with his teachers, coaches and finally resulted in him being expelled from high school. All this stuff went on way before I showed up and after 1.5 years I couldn't take the constant stress and disrespect anymore and hated to see his mom treated that way and thats why I moved out. Please understand that I'm not a newbie to parenting having raised my own two boys who are now older and on their own.
My hope was to move out but remain a loving couple and then when her 17 and 19 year old kids were on their own then we could live together again. I thought it was a reasonable plan but she made it very clear that if I moved out that the relationship would be over. She felt that me living somewhere else would be like us being "F buddies" and she didn't want that. Except for some angry emails from her at the beginning of the breakup I haven't contacted her in two weeks and there was very little contact prior to that. She is angry because she feels that I "abandoned" her even though I gave her enough money to pay all the household bills for two months and made my intentions very clear that I didn't want to break up with her. She is also mad at me because she feels that I have rejected her kids but the thing is that when her kids were cool and "normal" then I was cool with them.
My track record with her since I've known her (3 years) was that I have been completely devoted to her and have cared for her in every way I possibly could and she was the same towards me too. I don't deal with fantasy so I'm not just saying that either. Our breakup was NOT because we didn't get along or because we didn't love each other and not because the relationship had gone stale. Quite the contrary because after three years we were both as passionately in love with each other as we were at the beginning of our relationship. I don't for one second regret moving out of there because I never want to live with her and her kids again. However, that doesn't mean that I wouldn't mind being at her house and staying over for weekends but I can not and will not ever get involved with "parenting" her kids again because of the way she undermines me when I would attempt to make her son accountable for his actions.
The bottom line is that I would still like us to be a couple again. Do you think that is possible?
Thank you very much. :-)