Hey all, I haven't posted in a while. I'm in a dilemma and I need some advice...
Well basically last Friday, my boyfriend told me he wanted to go drinking with his buddies. (He's in the army, so I only see him during the weekends) He even begged permission from me. I said, yeah go ahead, I'm really honestly fine with him going drinking.
He came home around 3am and called me when he reached home. All night I had this really annoying feeling that I've been lied to and he even texted me once that 'I'm drinking' and it still didn't make me feel better.
So when I came over on Saturday, he pulled me into his room and told me not to get angry: he's been consoling this one girl he BARELY KNEW since Monday (that's like, what, 4-5 days?). This girl - or should I say woman - has been recently divorced (she's 33) and her ex-husband keeps abusing her. My bf claims that she always gives guys the evil eye in his camp but apparently this girl felt that she could trust my boyfriend with her secrets.
I was very very mad, not the fact that he was out THE WHOLE NIGHT with her, but when he lied to me to see her. He kept telling me he was scared to tell me cos I might think he's cheating on me with her (I've been cheated on before and he's afraid I see him as my ex). I told him, no, you're an individual, but you really broke my trust here. In the end, we sat and talked for a while, and I calmed down, but I still haven't forgiven him.
So today, I woke up a little late and found a text saying he's meeting this girl AGAIN. My question is: is it really okay that this girl is burdening her marital problems to him (my boyfriend's barely 21) and is it wrong to feel so angry at her for talking to my boyfriend about this problems? I feel that her problems are really out of my boyfriend's hand. The worst part is he kept insisting that she's a mother, can I please be more sensitive to that?
Thank you for your replies in advance.