Not sure?

[WinterSweet]

I met a really wonderful guy about 10 months ago. We became really good friends. I was so comfortable with him I surprised myself. I came out of an abusive relationship about 6 years ago and I just have not had the urge to be bothered with anyone since then until he came along and made me feel very special. For the first six months we kind of talked and got to know each other emailing and text. After that we went out a couple of times as friends. He says he has a lot going on and he didn't want to start something he couldn't finish so we felt we were getting close and we agreed that if we decided to enjoy each other we would and it would be an understanding that we agreed on. He's always telling me how much he appreciates me being so understanding. Things started to heat up in the last couple of months and we decided to make love. I had been celibate for 5 years and of course things changed for me but not him he's still in the "friendship" mode but I don't want to say anything and make it seem like I'm being the needy one or I'm going back on my word. We talk or text almost everyday but we never go out he's always either out of town or busy. We've been together a couple times after and I am getting closer and closer, but he never expresses his feelings, but I've really fallen for him. I really think I should pull back cut the contact part and just stay friends as we agreed because I don't know where this is going and I can't continue to just be there when he calls and not know what to expect. What do you think is happening here. I want more from this relationship but not sure what is happening with him.

[Gigabitch]

This has got to be the fiftieth time I've seen this on Love Forum and I think it's so sad.

Look, ladies, you have to LISTEN to men when they tell you they're unavailable for a relationship. As far as this guy is concerned, he already told you what the deal was and if you fall for him after sleeping with him, it's you're own fault, and if you hold him even a little bit responsible for your changed feelings, you'll be called a "psycho".

Protect your heart, WinterSweet. It's in danger of being broken.

[QueenofCorona]

Yeah. Saaad. Friends don't ****. You don't seem like that girl so don't be on that level with him.

He's getting it all, sleeping with you w/out strings attached so he's free to get with anyone else with no consequences.

You are better than that, and deserve better.

[WinterSweet]

sometimes are hard to control - but I do have the strength to be in control. He is a good person and I do want what's going to make him happy if it's with or without me. I am glad we established a friendship and we will always have that. thanks.