Girlfriend broke up with me.

[amb5059]

You did the right thing... cut her out of your life. DO NOT call her, text her, or message her. DO Not put your life on hold for her. I know it is hard, but move on. Not being friends is the best way to go about this... she may not like it, but it is definitely the only way to go.

[ElToroGrande]

She phoned me last night at around 10pm 'me and my friend are going to aparty, is it ok if we come by and pick up my stuff, its ok though if your busy' (she knows i wasnt busy as i play football till half 9 on a wednesday) i say well im going to get washed and that first as im just in. She says ok il text u then when i know what im doing, half an hour passes so i text 'u coming up tonight or tommorow?' this is the first wev talked in 4 days so im trying be civil and non emotional. She says 'im just getting my friend so il come by after i pick her up' then i text back 'sure thing, give me a bell when your here'

Two hours pass and still nothing, then i get a text 'realised i forgot your hat, its pointless doing two journeys so il just come by tommorw...sorry just i know youl want it back xxx'

I dont text her till this morning and say 'no sweat i was sleeping anyways...thats fine though give me a bell when your heading up xx'

She's still not here or contacted me again yet, is she trying to play games?? i really dont see the point seeing as she was the one who broke up with me??? lol

[xxazurexx]

No she isn't playing games...something better probably came up that was more interesting than collecting dvds. Like you said, why play games with someone you ended things with anyway?

Also and when she ended the relationship, she's in no posistion to be requesting that you stay friends, even though I view the downfall of the realtionship as your fault.

People get tired of being constantly accused and distrusted and there is nothing worse than an insecure, jealous person. They are not attractive qualities.

[Gigabitch]

You just want her to be playing games, so that there's some glimmer of hope that she's still interested. I think what really happened is that she forgot your hat. That's all.

[ElToroGrande]

Yous are probably right to be honest. She came over..but with her friends! she came over and talked to me alone as i gave her the dvd's, but she forgot the hat! said oh i can always run up some other time with it im not busy.

We made a bit of small talk, i can see in her eyes she doesnt want to break up with me, even the way she stroked my arm as she walked away.

Azure - yeah i know i have played my part in this breakup, i have evaluated long and hard over the past few days and seen that my temper has been a big part of the downfall, dont get me wrong her going on holiday with an ex is still out of order but in all honesty i could have handled many situations a lot better.

Decided games are out the window, its an all or nothing shot now! found out today i start a new job so things are looking up and i feel indestructable! even seeing her wasnt a zillionth as hard as i thought it would be. Just text her there saying it was nice seeing her and that i would like to take her for dinner and a movie on sunday. I was unemployed all throughout our relationship and dates were scarce i know this was another thing that bothered her but she would never say.

Maybe im being stupid asking her this as the NC rule is the best option, but i feel like taking risks today for some reason!