I've always felt that I was the nice girl next door. I have great female friends and I get along with people fairly well.
But when it comes to relationships, its a completely different dynamic.
In the past few months, I've been observing and self-analyzing what my issues are when it comes to relationships.
I've discovered that that I am just too nice OR either extremely passive when it comes to relationships (I'm sure its a mixture of both).
Yesterday, my bf and I decided to watch a movie, since it was months since we actually went out due to his busy schedule. I was, indeed, excited. I met him and I offered to buy dinner, since he paid for most of our dinner outings. But when I saw him, he appeared extremely exhausted and looked as if he was coming down with sthg. So, I felt bad and said that we should call it a night and watch a movie tomorrow or some other time. So, I suggested he go home- and he was thankful and sorry to ruin the date.I was fine (although a bit disappointed, but what could I do if he was sick?).
the next day, we met to go to the library (we're both grad students) and again he looked tired & admitted he was a bit tired- but was ok. So, I told him we could take a raincheck on the movie tonight again if he was feeling bad. And he agreed. Hours later, I changed my mind and said I really wanted to watch the movie and spend some time with him if he was still up for it.
He was angry and irritated that I was changing my mind so often.ok, ok, I admit it- I was in decisive and confusing him.
My only excuse: I just felt bad that he looked sick, so I was struggling to decide what would be the best. He didn't have much to say when I asked his thoughts.
So, yeah, it is partially my fault. I should've said one thing and stuck with it.
I think I was trying to be overly considerate and it back fired on me. Really, I feel like a complete idiot and...yeah... a bit hurt (although I do understand where it's coming from).
So, any tips on how to overcome this "nice girl" syndrome?? [/B]